#30 inspired post

I really want to write this post talking about my inspiration because it means the world to me.

Book keeping is my daily job & it pays my bills, I really like my job and my team is effin great!! Love em so much, makes every day a fun day. But there is another “job” I have - writing on my blog. Althought I shouldn’t call it my job because it’s nothing I “have” to do. Still… in fact I really HAVE to do it, because it’s my way of expression. It’s my way of keeping my balance, it’s my way of showing my inner world. I am not going to lie but neither I am going to put glitter on shit.

My inspiration was on a damn super high in 2013 – breathing in inspiration and breathing out amazing posts – however my inspiration went down under by end of 2013 and throughout 2014 nothing changed. I tried to start all over again but things got so difficult and it literally pissed me off to censor my shit, to give this damn blog a different?! name – holy shit please hit me with a chair the next time - and pretend that the source of this amazing blog came out of my ass nd was entertained by nothing that could compare to real passion. Back then in 2013 when I sat down and started to type, the letters were just flowing magically, sentence after sentence, there it was – big inspired posts from the heart. I loved to reread everyone of them from time to time and I still do now. It was simply my pure self that I laid down in this blog, emotional stripping.

However, I realized something in the past weeks as there was a change in my emotional life – it’s not just that I can feel inspiration running through my veins again, it shocked me even more (in a positive way) what triggers my inspiration!

Yeh of course it’s passion… but passion can be found in other souls… right? Well, guess that doesn’t count for me. 

Beautiful how the same passion from back then which inspired me to write is the same one to inspire me again to start all over again! Isn’t it ironic?

#29 inspired post

someone called me robogirl - and it was true. 

It was true because I didn't let my soul fully guide me, I always kept it in check with my huge overworking mind. Why? Well I found two things today. two things were given me today - the first thing was understanding. Understanding myself, why certain patterns in my head ruled over my heart. The second thing was freedom of my heart. Freedom I gave my heart & soul after understanding myself. The first thing was a gift I received. The second thing was a gift I made myself. Finally I feel in balance with everything that makes me the woman I truly am. It was a long journey but in the end it was worth every obstacle that crossed my path. The person which faces you with geniune understanding and a look right through you into the deepest part of you, is the one who captivates and frees your soul. 

#happy new year

let me say hi with a big fat smile

2014 had a lot in store for me - had shitloads of drama - had shitloads of confusion - had shitloads of lessons learned - had shitloads of tears - had shitloads of reasons to look forward to enter 2015.

it would be damn easy to fingerpoint now but i refuse - that's part of my strive to be a better woman. i don't fuss around with problems any longer, i bring solutions and a "i can do everything fuck yeh" attitude. and it brought me pretty far by now and we only have january 31! handled a lot of administration ish, emotional ish and also personal ish in the last weeks and months. i didn't sit down and thought about resolutions, i sat down and thought "being aware of your problems is the first step, facing them is the second, embracing them is the third step as you let them go in the fourth step"

i am not going to talk shit pretty, i hit the bottom pretty hard, i got hurt in a very bad way and i struggled with myself. but and that's the most important point now, the moment i felt the dirt underneath my fingers, smelled devastation around me and looked into the eyes of resentment - i simply stood up with all my aquarius "fuck that i do whatever i want to do" attitude and walked away. 

walking away won't solve your problems, that's a fact. but if you brought so many possible solutions to the table and there is simply no way out then just choose to not make this your battle and yes, it is easy when you finally realize how precious you are and how precious your time and energy is. people walk out of your life for a reason, let them, by now 3 months went by since then and i'm happy and thankful for it. it was one of the best things that could have happened to me to be honest.

i really solved one of the most common issues people face - avoiding the look in the mirror of your soul - i did and it wasn't all that pretty. but this way i realized that this motherfucking mirror had a crack, started from the bottom and up to the top. did i fix it? nah i smashed it into billion pieces, i don't want nor do i need a broken mirror, i simply get a new one and start off clean and the way i want to. i do keep the broken pieces though, as a reminder of what i don't want to experience ever again. but what i am facing everyday now is a new one, a mirror i clean and appreciate. i keep it safe because this mirror shows my values, my believes, my goals, my fears and my motivations.

this doesn't mean i'm on my way to perfection - fuck perfection - i'm on the way to a truer me and i'm getting closer and closer each day, with each obstacle, with each mistake, with each lesson learned, with each smile, with each bit of love. i evolve and so should you. feels great. hello 2015

#27 inspired post

fascinating though that i get along with many people but not many people get along with me, it's just in my nature to be accepting and tolerating.

i don't have high expectation towards others and i live for that "let live and let die". people might think i don't care much - and that's true. that's also the reason why many people involve themselves with drama, because they care too much, those nosey people that stick their noses into everything that comes across their path. i hate that - and i refuse to let them into my personal space because i don't care about their shit either. it's not that i don't like them it's just me handling drama of other people around me. if you ask for my advice, i'll gladly give you some. if you ask for a shoulder to cry on, i'll be there.

people might freak out about my quirky nature, whenever my mouth runs faster than my mind - well i don't really let my mouth run faster than my mind - i just speak out what i mean. it rarely happens that i say something i don't mean cuz eventhough i run fast with my words, i know exactly what i'm saying.

i come at a club with my hoodie and converse - who cares - i come at a club with hot pans and heels - who cares. i certainly don't. i write a blog about things i think about, even if i come over as rough - who cares. if you do, well then it's your problem not mine. those people around me, who really know me, know that i'm all lovable for all my weird sides. i wouldn't change that just to get along with people who can't accept the real me - why - because i don't give a fuck.

it's not about being mean or arrogant - it's about loving yourself for who you are cuz those nosey people who always complain about others and throw themselves at you without you asking them for - they don't love themselves enough like you do. just stick to being yourself and let those other bitches cry about things that aren't as important as they think.

people can run their mouths about me - i didn't give a fuck ysterday and i won't give a fuck tomorrow. of course it's not nice, but ehm well.... i just don't give a fuck. the people who are the closest know me and that's all that matters. and you should matter the most to yourself. just look into the mirror and think "fuck that, i'm fab"

#18 inspired post

it's kind of coward when we curl up on the couch and drown our thoughts in silence just to not release the next shitstorm, maybe eventhough we didn't have one yet. i think of myself as someone who is able to fake a smile if it's neccessary, to keep up the mood - well that's true, but a fake smile will never reach your eyes, or at least not mine. it has a lot to do with trust actually, trust i have in myself and others. am i confident enough to believe that my "complaints" and wishes are important enough to be outspoken? am i confident enough about how others feel about me, so i don't fear rejection or misunderstanding? 

it has a sidetaste of confidence issues - how come? being popular, admired, wanted is nothing you'll find in my childhood/youth repertoire - if you whine about being an option, please fuck yourself, i wasn't even an option to anyone. i was that quirky weird girl with no style, who didn't have a flatiron and looked like a frikkin lamp with her hair, ugly glasses and all the other unpleasent stuff i got cursed with. i had friends though but talkin about dating etc i was like traffic on a lazy sunday - none existent. i experienced a lot of rejection in my life, not just from strangers but also from people i knew, that's ok though because it made me appreciate the smaller things in life. that was all i had left to focus on, so it's a blessing if you look closer.

the world belongs to the popular, pretty faces and bodies - as ugly as it sounds and i hate to say it, but there's a spark of truth in it. it's often way easier to get what you want from others when you have that little extra. so asking for things, knowing you are not one of the benefited ones, comes way harder comes with a little fear of rejection. as hilarious as it sounds, i have a hard time asking for things that bother me, especially from my boyfriend. i often have the feeling he is above my league, although i shoud have realized by now that my influence on men has dramatically changed since back then when i was 14. i know what i'm able to do if i only wanted to, i could get promoted as switzerlands next super whore if i wanted to. but i refuse because i gained a lot of confidence and on top of that selfworth, both mentally and physically.

#18 inspired post

what if our heart got so numb that we start caring less if we fail - knowing we'll fail but still we go for it. one more time, one last time and once again - over again until we feel alive. we aren't fools, it would be foolish to think we wouldn't fail and still go for it - but we know better, right? it's not the thrill nor is it an ego boost we are after - our biggest need is to run free, to run 1000 miles at once just so we can lay on the floor all sweaty and breathless, feeling how our heart pumps the last bit of blood through our veins. we are all fine by ourselves, we live independency with every breath we take, with every mile we run - a pointless run isn't it? just to feel alive again, just to release our inner pressure of running free. once more, once again and over again.

a tamer in a cage with a lion without his whip - total fool, right? - living naivete on two feet

life often pressures us to be mature in everything we do, everything we say or think - let a bird out of the cage and it will return sometimes, but after it discovers what freedom really means it will fly for an unknown time - as far as it wants to, wherever it wants to. we pressure ourselves with the expectations of others, because we give them so much power, because we don't want to disappoint because we don't want to hurt because we care more about their feelings than about our own. but we do hurt, by lying about our true needs and feelings just so we can keep up that happy smile one more day - one more day without failing one more day without disappointing. whatever got us to this point, may it be rational or irrational, we didn't chose to get overcome by this sudden rush of rebellion. we try to fight it, starting a rebellion against rebellion - but where do we run, do we run out - out of sanity, out of power, out of cowardice, out of nerves?

where do we go..... i don't know about you but i'm running out

#11 inspired post

pic/quote by dapper_grandiose_fashion (instagram)

we all do mistakes, we all do things that aren't right - things that can hurt people around us, sometimes we know exactly that if they find out, it will hurt them. lies mostly push you away - more and more - from what you try to achieve by lying.

dear men, most of the time a lady knows when you lie to her - she won't say a thing though, hoping you man up and speak the thruth on your own with your brave heart. she will give you some time to redeem your own nasty behavior, worst thing you can do is to spin a larger and larger web of lies. if you keep on lying you don't only disappoint her, you break her heart & trust.

i don't have to love a man as my partner to be deeply hurt and disappointed - even if some ways split, there remains respect and trust into each other - you probably knew each other for many many years or had a long history together as a couple.
realizing that you were trapped into a decision, maybe giving another last chance, by constantly lying and trying to trigger you with more and more lies - that is something i don't have words for. by turning down to give this chance you should come up with your knowledge, teach him a lesson that lies won't ever bring him further than to the next doorbell. 

everytime you lie, the possibility that she already knows the truth is so big, it's terrible hurting that you lie, but that you keep on with that is more hurting. we aren't as stupid as you wish we'd be - but we are so warmhearted to give you chances over chances to speak up with the truth - until we finally close the door because you lost us, our respect and our trust.

look around you, are you happy now? you lost me, again, i hope she is worth it that you even lost that remaining respect i had for you - as a man. she might know about you asking me for another chance - how can you be with a girl who doesn't have any self respect? i have self respect, i am proud of who i am and i won't stick around while being treated so poorly. because i am a lady and i am proud of my decisions.

#9 inspired post

pic / quote by dapper_grandiose_fashion instagram

exclusiveness is something which is behold to lovers, as monogamy is assumed - otherwise you have to decide for yourself how far your trust goes and how far you allow yourself to fall for trust. we live in a fast moving world, where interaction & fast satisfaction is given way too easy. you have to decide for yourself and listen very closely to your heart if it's worth the trust you are willing to give.

trust issues damage the bonding, but on the other hand who doesn't have trust issues or gets a little or more jealous sometimes? is it considered as being possessive if you don't want to share your most precious treasure? us women we invest ourselves so much in every kind of relationship, wether it's a friendship or a romance. if we let people come close to us and open up for them then we give some kind of trust on loan conditions subconsciously. we don't expect much in return, we just wish for giving back trust and show us that our emotional investment wasn't a fail. i'm quite unsure if men are more capable to handle such sharing stuff - but us women are def not capable of doing so. 

calmness and confidence isn't about just dealing with it - it's about how you deal with it! Boys share their "toys" and don't mind as long as they can use it too sometimes - real men don't share because they are able to see the difference of a "quick snack" & something very valuable and therefor mark their terrain. they won't be satisfied by snacks, be sure they don't want to share you or even lose you to another man either. Be happy and prove him that he doesn't want to lose you because of other snacks. Stay valuable for him, enjoy having eachother and just smiiiiiile - because how can you be valuable if you always pull a 7-days-raining face? make rainbows instead! nevertheless in my opinion exclusiveness shouldn't be taken for granted - and i highly value it, without it there is no way of having me on the tip of your little finger.

being exclusive is a choice - not a matter of putting eachother in chains - if you feel chained by the thought of exclusiveness then you are in the wrong place anyway! trusted exclusiveness is more worth than gifts, attention and many other things - it's a foundation.

#8 inspired post

when picking my accessories for a night out i mostly go with nice, big earrings and something for my wrist - but last but not least i take my smile with me. in my opinion it's the most magnetizing thing a woman can chose out of hundred others things to wear - a nice bright smile that reaches the eyes.

imagine this: you are a guy, who is out to have a blastin fun time with his boys. same as all of the other 100 people in the club at the same time - oh here we go, some fucked up chicks who look quite hot. yeh, but they look so bored, arrogant and seem to be full with themselves - 7 days raining? hey check out that girl over there, damn what a nice smile - she must be havin a good time.

when i look around i often see beautiful women but something is missing, they barely smile! yeh they might laugh - especially when they are already fucked up - but i rarely see big happy smiles. smiling from the heart makes you happy and others too! i love it when people smile at me and i can see their eyes smiling too - i see enough moody and "emo-like" people everyday! is it so hard or does it hurt so much to smile?! oh wait if so, emos would smile the whole time lol people pass by me, saying "good morning" without smiling, that's like giving me a glass without water in it!!!! i don't need anyone to tell me good morning when they can't overcome themselves to smile a little at least.

i love when i can't hold back my smile because i'm overly excited or just ridiculously happy about something - that happens pretty fast though. do you know that nice feeling when you can make someone else more happy because you kinda glow happiness? even if i'm down or upset about something - often it takes just a little fun or some stupid things and there you have me - all smiling again. guess that is kind of a little curse, a nice looking one though, but i tend to forgive within the same second as a huge smile runs over my lips. i'm not a person to be mad at someone for long, i often curse myself because i figure out that i simply can't "hate" someone, although i say you should never carry hate in your heart, you surely get my point. no matter how mad i can get for a few minutes, an authentic sorry, a lil hug and a funny face and i'm over it. guess that's a matter of your personality, as some people can be mad at you for soooo long it's ridiculous.

why waste your precious beauty & lifetime with looking and feeling all sad and worthless? big up and look in the mirror, there is so much to love about everyone, why not start with yourself? i don't have a perfect shaped face and no i don't wear size 0 nor do i look like a model - but i'm happy with myself!!!! and that's my way of expressing my beauty. a smile can be inspired by many things or people, but how can it be inspired if it isn't there in the first place - so be happy with yourself first and the rest will follow. i'll have wrinkles when i'm getting older, but heck those will be mainly smiling-wrinkles!!!

so the next time you are unsure which accessorie will make you look the best - chose a big fat ass happy smile.

#7 inspired post

quote / pic by dapper_grandiose_fashion (instagram)

 ▪ just like one says "knives, forks, scissors & fire aren't meant for little kids to play with" - a  lady should say "trust, loyalty, faith & emotions aren't meant for little boys to play with". a man isn't much more than a "grown up" boy - so he will play and mess around with the given trust & heart from a lady which are very delicate and easy to break, therefor you shouldn't give those things away easily - he won't respect and appreciate it in a proper way. what sets apart a gentleman from a man is that he indeed knows the value of your given trust & feelings that come along with his emotional interaction with you - he won't crave and run after the attention from other ladies by giving them his more than obvious attention. a gentleman knows that by doing so he risks to lose one of the biggest and most important things that glue the bond he has with his lady - trust, without that everything else will become more and more fragile. it shakes up a lady's self assurance and her view on you - don't be one more reason for her to doubt that true gentlemen still exist. If a man can't stay focussed on one lady at a time - in fact his lady that gave him her heart - then he should give it back and as he isn't a worthy gentleman any longer, he shouldn't dare to accept given trust & feelings as he doesn't handle them with respect. be a gentleman, take responsibility & show her that you are way more worthy than other men who crave for her - she chosed you to be the worthy heart & trust keeper - don't ruin it by pointless flirting & staring, giving away the attention she deserves, no other lady than her. be worth her trust and she'll give you much more in return - unconditional and faithfull love which is paired with admiration & affection only meant for you. ▪ - Sarah Jessica

edit for gentlemen: you shouldn't find yourself in a situation where you have to think twice if your actions are doubtful, especially when it might cause you to think "she won't notice it anyway" or "i'll simply delete it afterwards"- as soon one of these thoughts pop up in your head, that's a damn huge alert signal for you to doubt yourself!!!! because you know that it's not right!

before you interact with others, especially other women, consider at least one of the following thoughts that should run through your mind first - and i mean seriously first(!) everytime:

"if my lady would read/hear my conversation with that other woman on FB/IG/etc...."

• would i still say/write the same things
• would i still be that overly "generous" aka flirty
• would i still suggest to meet up at some time (omfg i cringe while typing that - fuck that shit HELLOO)
• would i still like her half naked pictures on FB or IG (that makes me go big chunky coconuts, seriously i fucking hate that)
• would i still send all those stupid smiley faces
• would i still need to delete my convo after that
• would i still complement her on looking so bangin hot (or whatever crap men write)
• would i still be able to say about myself that i'm a nice guy (no not because your lying to yourself and defending yourself that it's sooooooo super normal to write in that way with other women - no it's not - basta)  
• would i still show my own convo/txt to my lady (yeh that says it all)
• how would my lady feel when she heard/saw it
• would my lady feel disrespected
• would my lady doubt my faithfulness
• would my lady feel jealous about giving away my attention to other women
• would my lady feel sad about my flirty behavior
• would my lady lose trust and faith in me
• would my lady lose her precious point of view on me
• would my lady feel hurt  
• would my lady be able to be happy with me after that
• how would i feel if she did the same things with other men
• how would i feel when she is txting with other men behind my back
• how would i feel when she likes half naked pics of other men
• how would i look at her if she did those things
• would i trust her any longer
• would i respect her any longer

this is so simple in fact - if a big fat ass YES comes to your mind for at least one of those things i listed - then stop doing it!!! i'm not paranoid, of course we interact on a daily basis with our opposite sex - might it be at work or with the cashier, what so ever! that's not the point and we all know damn well what i'm talking about. don't act stupid and fool yourself! 

if you can count yourself a lucky man because you have someone special at your side - then please, do yourself a favor and think twice - 99% of the interaction with random women who don't have anything to do with your worklife/family etc is pointless and just flirty because you need attention and ego boost. as i said, if you can't handle to focus on one lady at a time, then you don't deserve a true lady who would give her all to you. and the bad thing is you know exactly what you can lose - but mostly you think you won't lose it. 

you are wrong.

and there are a lot of disrespectful things that a lady can experience, but she should never experience disrespect from you by actually showing her that you can do better with other women - and yes, that's the hurtful impression you make with your actions. and don't try to defend such cheap behavior with words like "it's just texting or it's just liking her picture, i wouldn't do anything in real life" - this is the real life!!!!!!!!!!! or were you dreaming that you texted her? fuck no - you were doing it, right here right now!!!! man up for your lady or sit back and let her have a real gentleman who appreciates her true value and knows why he's with her and not with one of the others - because she will make him happier than anyone else ever could. so please pay her respect and don't drag her public & personal self assurance down - it will make her look & feel stupid. whenever i see a man who's in a relationship and acts all flirty with other women it just makes me cringe and feel bad for his girlfriend - and THAT is something very important to us ladies, how others see our relationship and therefor "us" as our relationship represents a big part of ourself and yes it makes us feel embarrassed when everyone around us notices what kind of flirty douche bag we have. a lady wants to be proud of her man & her relationship, don't ruin that.     

if we just reflect for a short moment how our partner would feel about it, or much easier - how WE would feel about our partner's behavior - then we all would benefit from less frustration, disappointment & hurt.

#6 inspired post

quote/picture by dapper_grandiose_fashion (instagram)


edit 04/14/2013: "you do you - i do me" and everyone's happy.

ok i don't need to tell you guys that it's obvious that some ladies are attracted by tall, tanned, short, asian, european or what the heck ever men. same applies for men's "game", some ladies are attracted by cocky, fucked up attitudes from jerks, douche bags or our well known "players" cause they are often super flirty, confident and all of that faked up shit -  fuck i'm laughing my ass off, but ok i know i curse too much, so back to our post. 

i honestly don't know if what i'm about to write is based on the fact that i saw "the one" or just because i'm kinda sensible for seeing the inner personality within shortest time.

whatever it is, in general i don't focus on looks or set up attitudes (can smell that a mile ahead) - if i get introduced to somebody or get approached i kinda sense out what this person is about. not like i'm judging i just feel the vibe. 

everyone of us has both an attractive side and a well.. not so attractive side about ourself. but this depends on who looks at them and such lesser attractive sides can make a person very attractive in fact - because they're just a part of them. a man who is aware of his habits/lesser attractive sides is authentic and therefor attractive to me. one might be shy, a bit insecure around you, has quiet a temper, ego or a hard time to focus etc - but this is him, nothing less nothing more - that's a part of his authentic character and if you love him then you also have to embrace these sides of him.

i don't say that you have to tolerate everything, although i hold back a lot lately because i consider the situation/mood etc but mr. big knows that i have temper too and that i'm not afraid to stand my ground. there are times when it just fits to tell somebody what's bothering you because you are able to express it gentle but clear, without leaving a side taste of offense. there is no need to change someone, just asking them to change HOW they do certain things in order to make you feel more comfortable - which, if he loves you, should be important to him.

don't want him in any other way - just like he is because either you take all of it or nothing at all and i want all of his authentic and amazing self because i feel comfortable with handling it.

#5 inspired post

when i first met mr. big i never had a clue what was about to come in my life - the past months were anything but normal, i guess it's something totally irrational what made me do all of those things. i experience so many different things, a lot i experienced for the first time. but it's not all about experiencing things for the first time, it's about how he makes me see them from a different point of view - like there isn't any better way for it, like this is just how it should be. and that feeling is beautiful. this is def not where i planned to go in first place, but it reveals to be just the perfect, right place where i belong to be in the end.

cloud 9, cloud 7, pinky love glasses, falling in love, loves stoned - however one might call it, i don't care. fact is mr. big knocked me off my mental feet, like there is a switch for inspiration and imagination that went from "off" to "ON & hyper hyper on". my mind was never dull though, but it felt like slowly drying out from thirst - thirsty for huge mental stimulation. guess i couldn't define it myself back then, but something was missing in my life. he inspired me in a different way, enabled me to write again - not just about how awesomely handsome he is etc nah, much more!! almost every text is inspired by him and that makes me happy. that makes my mind feel alive and limitless - i feel a huge need to write my thoughts down and if i can't then that upsets me, more and more each day. so as he gives me inspiration, he gives me peace of mind and happiness at the same time.

i believe that one can find inspiration in many things, but if you can find inspiration which is given from the heart of someone so special - well that amazes me.

thank you

#3 inspired post

pic/quote by dapper_grandiose_fashion (Instagram)

▪ intimacy and lust might appear as the same to some people - intimacy goes hand in hand with affection, desire and most of all trust & respect. without them it's pure lust, without them it's just regular quick exchange of satisfaction. intimacy requires also a lot of time and feelings - i'm not talking about love explicit - love needs to be seed and grows over a long long time before it blooms in all it's beauty, when it finally does it will take it to a whole new stage, but now it's more about the bond you feel between eachother that brings unconditional joy in pleasing and feeling eachother. You let yourself down and you experience desire without any worries that hold you back - you just go with the flow without shame towards one another, it just feels right and no matter what you do, respect is always given. and no, a "friends with benefits" or "f*** buddy" thing could never ever go that far. people might think that pure lust is all that it takes to experience phenomenal physical sex. i can't make you imagine or understand what I'm talking about - nobody can - until you find yourself in pure intimacy on the highest scale with someone you truly feel and "see" with your mind, heart & soul. sharing all of the essential affection, trust, respect and desire for eachother makes sex to something more wonderful & special than lust could ever do! it's a mental, heart & physical trip you will experience and don't get confused when you think eachtime get's better and better when you already thought that there can't be any higher ladder to climb - because each time your bond grows harder and stronger like carbon which turns into a diamond - creating a bond which lasts a lifetime. once you found somebody who you experienced something like that with - you shouldn't let that person go because you might never connect to someone to the fullest like that again - setting a strong & special foundation for happiness & peace of mind and soul ▪

- Sarah Jessica


edit: by experiencing the above you give a man the oppertunity to look beyond your sex appeal and keep his subconscious busy with puzzling out the fact why it feels right.. more than ever and why it never looses a single bit of it's mindblowing taste after all. yes, one might say that things you do often become routine quickly and due to that it results in quantity instead of quality - true. the thing is "that" was never something usual - since the beginning respect was given, trust was gained and mixed with something you can call "invisible lemongrass" because you can't really define this special kind of "ingredient" that made you two click - all of that made something one of a kind. so i say no, this isn't something that will become routine... ever.

#1 inspired post

pic/quote by thecrazytruth.tumblr.com

▪ ladies, if you got a man's attention and turned it into respect, appreciation & a true friendship because of your ability to actually speak out with your heart & intellect - be confident about it cuz' he won't let you down for any cheap "sale" sign that passes his way and might turn his head for a second. He appreciates the mental connection between both of you & the way you captured his mind and true respect more than a quick distraction that comes a long. "Sale" advertisments come and go on a daily basis - but at the end of the day they turned his head for a second - you turned AND captured his head, mind, respect & happiness for a life time. Think about it ▪

- Sarah Jessica

edit:  a deep mental connection can give peace of mind because it results out of the ability to understand and accept eachother - nothing to be taken for granted. a quick chase might satisfy him for a while, but true mental depth and delightment overweight any thrill in the end. ease a man's mind beyond superficiality and show him how meaningless time can get when he's around you - he will never want to miss that again cause that's luxury- forgotten how to live by that by many but craved by almost everyone. Give it to him and you will get much more in return - either a lifetime friendship or a lifetime love. I tend to go for the second because finding someone like that is rare and chances that you fall in love with eachothers mindsets are big, seriously... you shouldn't let go of something like that, especially when that person can give you something like you never had before.