#3 ladies only - trust equals respect

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sometimes our own mind plays little nasty games with us, worst case scenarios creep around and surrender knocks heavily on our door. especially if we expect something nice to happen because someone told us so – it’s so easy in fact to run after it because we doubt that it will happen on its own or because we thought it would come around quicker.

i don’t really like to use the word desperation, no it’s more a sign that you don’t trust if you go running after it. a lack of trust is a lack of respect – if you can’t put trust into the smallest things he tells you then you don’t have any trust in him. respecting him means more than just accepting him as he is, it means that you give him your trust and won’t doubt his ability to stick to his statements or promises.

there are reasons why things don’t happen right away or at a time YOU wish for – but that doesn’t mean that they won’t.

knowing that they will happen is big and powerful because it shows your doubtless trust. people underestimate und underrate it all the time – “i love him but i don’t trust him, so i run after him. otherwise he will forget about me and will move on” wrong, wrong, wrong.

there is no love when there is no trust - there might be feelings but love requires earned and given trust. it’s true even when it sounds a bit weird:

“you may not trust someone you love. but you can always love someone you trust”

i would alter it a bit though because there isn’t any love without trust – simple as that. and trust isn’t given from the start, therefore love doesn’t happen overnight! love takes time as the trust grows you have and trust can only grow when fed right. so by running after him you show that he’s not able to match your expectations in your eyes – because if you’d actually trust him then you’d know that he’ll be there and won’t forget about you. that’s why there is no reason to cause a scene when things don’t happen according to your “timeline”, it would show that you lacked trust while you indeed waited! that’s the big difference between waiting, doubting, fearing, disrespecting & knowing, trusting, respecting!

no obvious evidence that he broke your trust? no fearful desperation needed until it’s proven otherwise! weak love will never build up a loving and stable home.

if you can bring up doubtless and genuine trust – then you carry strong love for him in your heart.

#5 inspired post

when i first met mr. big i never had a clue what was about to come in my life - the past months were anything but normal, i guess it's something totally irrational what made me do all of those things. i experience so many different things, a lot i experienced for the first time. but it's not all about experiencing things for the first time, it's about how he makes me see them from a different point of view - like there isn't any better way for it, like this is just how it should be. and that feeling is beautiful. this is def not where i planned to go in first place, but it reveals to be just the perfect, right place where i belong to be in the end.

cloud 9, cloud 7, pinky love glasses, falling in love, loves stoned - however one might call it, i don't care. fact is mr. big knocked me off my mental feet, like there is a switch for inspiration and imagination that went from "off" to "ON & hyper hyper on". my mind was never dull though, but it felt like slowly drying out from thirst - thirsty for huge mental stimulation. guess i couldn't define it myself back then, but something was missing in my life. he inspired me in a different way, enabled me to write again - not just about how awesomely handsome he is etc nah, much more!! almost every text is inspired by him and that makes me happy. that makes my mind feel alive and limitless - i feel a huge need to write my thoughts down and if i can't then that upsets me, more and more each day. so as he gives me inspiration, he gives me peace of mind and happiness at the same time.

i believe that one can find inspiration in many things, but if you can find inspiration which is given from the heart of someone so special - well that amazes me.

thank you

#3 inspired post

pic/quote by dapper_grandiose_fashion (Instagram)

▪ intimacy and lust might appear as the same to some people - intimacy goes hand in hand with affection, desire and most of all trust & respect. without them it's pure lust, without them it's just regular quick exchange of satisfaction. intimacy requires also a lot of time and feelings - i'm not talking about love explicit - love needs to be seed and grows over a long long time before it blooms in all it's beauty, when it finally does it will take it to a whole new stage, but now it's more about the bond you feel between eachother that brings unconditional joy in pleasing and feeling eachother. You let yourself down and you experience desire without any worries that hold you back - you just go with the flow without shame towards one another, it just feels right and no matter what you do, respect is always given. and no, a "friends with benefits" or "f*** buddy" thing could never ever go that far. people might think that pure lust is all that it takes to experience phenomenal physical sex. i can't make you imagine or understand what I'm talking about - nobody can - until you find yourself in pure intimacy on the highest scale with someone you truly feel and "see" with your mind, heart & soul. sharing all of the essential affection, trust, respect and desire for eachother makes sex to something more wonderful & special than lust could ever do! it's a mental, heart & physical trip you will experience and don't get confused when you think eachtime get's better and better when you already thought that there can't be any higher ladder to climb - because each time your bond grows harder and stronger like carbon which turns into a diamond - creating a bond which lasts a lifetime. once you found somebody who you experienced something like that with - you shouldn't let that person go because you might never connect to someone to the fullest like that again - setting a strong & special foundation for happiness & peace of mind and soul ▪

- Sarah Jessica


edit: by experiencing the above you give a man the oppertunity to look beyond your sex appeal and keep his subconscious busy with puzzling out the fact why it feels right.. more than ever and why it never looses a single bit of it's mindblowing taste after all. yes, one might say that things you do often become routine quickly and due to that it results in quantity instead of quality - true. the thing is "that" was never something usual - since the beginning respect was given, trust was gained and mixed with something you can call "invisible lemongrass" because you can't really define this special kind of "ingredient" that made you two click - all of that made something one of a kind. so i say no, this isn't something that will become routine... ever.