#6 inspired post

quote/picture by dapper_grandiose_fashion (instagram)


edit 04/14/2013: "you do you - i do me" and everyone's happy.

ok i don't need to tell you guys that it's obvious that some ladies are attracted by tall, tanned, short, asian, european or what the heck ever men. same applies for men's "game", some ladies are attracted by cocky, fucked up attitudes from jerks, douche bags or our well known "players" cause they are often super flirty, confident and all of that faked up shit -  fuck i'm laughing my ass off, but ok i know i curse too much, so back to our post. 

i honestly don't know if what i'm about to write is based on the fact that i saw "the one" or just because i'm kinda sensible for seeing the inner personality within shortest time.

whatever it is, in general i don't focus on looks or set up attitudes (can smell that a mile ahead) - if i get introduced to somebody or get approached i kinda sense out what this person is about. not like i'm judging i just feel the vibe. 

everyone of us has both an attractive side and a well.. not so attractive side about ourself. but this depends on who looks at them and such lesser attractive sides can make a person very attractive in fact - because they're just a part of them. a man who is aware of his habits/lesser attractive sides is authentic and therefor attractive to me. one might be shy, a bit insecure around you, has quiet a temper, ego or a hard time to focus etc - but this is him, nothing less nothing more - that's a part of his authentic character and if you love him then you also have to embrace these sides of him.

i don't say that you have to tolerate everything, although i hold back a lot lately because i consider the situation/mood etc but mr. big knows that i have temper too and that i'm not afraid to stand my ground. there are times when it just fits to tell somebody what's bothering you because you are able to express it gentle but clear, without leaving a side taste of offense. there is no need to change someone, just asking them to change HOW they do certain things in order to make you feel more comfortable - which, if he loves you, should be important to him.

don't want him in any other way - just like he is because either you take all of it or nothing at all and i want all of his authentic and amazing self because i feel comfortable with handling it.