#9 inspired post

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exclusiveness is something which is behold to lovers, as monogamy is assumed - otherwise you have to decide for yourself how far your trust goes and how far you allow yourself to fall for trust. we live in a fast moving world, where interaction & fast satisfaction is given way too easy. you have to decide for yourself and listen very closely to your heart if it's worth the trust you are willing to give.

trust issues damage the bonding, but on the other hand who doesn't have trust issues or gets a little or more jealous sometimes? is it considered as being possessive if you don't want to share your most precious treasure? us women we invest ourselves so much in every kind of relationship, wether it's a friendship or a romance. if we let people come close to us and open up for them then we give some kind of trust on loan conditions subconsciously. we don't expect much in return, we just wish for giving back trust and show us that our emotional investment wasn't a fail. i'm quite unsure if men are more capable to handle such sharing stuff - but us women are def not capable of doing so. 

calmness and confidence isn't about just dealing with it - it's about how you deal with it! Boys share their "toys" and don't mind as long as they can use it too sometimes - real men don't share because they are able to see the difference of a "quick snack" & something very valuable and therefor mark their terrain. they won't be satisfied by snacks, be sure they don't want to share you or even lose you to another man either. Be happy and prove him that he doesn't want to lose you because of other snacks. Stay valuable for him, enjoy having eachother and just smiiiiiile - because how can you be valuable if you always pull a 7-days-raining face? make rainbows instead! nevertheless in my opinion exclusiveness shouldn't be taken for granted - and i highly value it, without it there is no way of having me on the tip of your little finger.

being exclusive is a choice - not a matter of putting eachother in chains - if you feel chained by the thought of exclusiveness then you are in the wrong place anyway! trusted exclusiveness is more worth than gifts, attention and many other things - it's a foundation.