#21 ladies only - trust no bitch

c'mon look at that laugh - ok silvie doesn't look any less evil but if you haven't heard it: her bff (on the right) is together with her ex husband (like wtf is wrong with you?!) and now she's preggo from him - hiiiiiigh five with a chair i'd say. deep shit friendship over here huh?! of course her ex isn't any better than her stupid bff.

however if they still get along or not - it's obviously: don't trust anything that bleeds once a months and didn't die yet! 

all women's vajayjays are as sneaky as the stupid bitch next door who you hate for pulling more attention than you ever received. unnecessary to mention that quality goes over quantity, remember? no one can speak for the entire humanity but trust me, being selfish, greedy and reckless is in our female dna - why? - we still have unconcious behavior from our ancestors from thousand and thousand of years ago, pairing ourselves only with the best male around so chances are bigger that the children will grow healthy and strong. they didn't give a fuck if they were sharing a man or if they had to ellbow bitchfight to get the best man - they wanted him and they did everything possible to succeed. no need to tell you how "loose" today's society is huh and that bitches still don't give a fuck?

people interact differently but i'm honestly not - let me repeat: n o t - a fan of sharing my man on any scale. sure others don't see it as a biggie to let their bf/gf go out with the opposite sex but c'mon why don't they see a problem with it? it's simple, if they don't tell you to not meet other guys/girls they are allowed themselves to do so without you havin a reason to bitch around. smart ass huh?! nah nah nah naaaaaah my dear - not with me - i don't fucking care if it has to do with trust issues or confidence issues, i give a fuck about my ego in that case so go ahead and call me jealous, needi or what - but i can tell you one thing: every man who contacts you or looks for a reason to talk to you or even see you wants something from you. wether it's flirting to push his wack ego or evening the way to get into your panties after he got you on his hook - ego stroking is even harder when you have a bf and the other guy succeeds with flirting or asking you out for a drink.

oh c'mon this whole "let's have a drink" especially with that stupid wink smiley - is the same as the old and almost forgotten "hey wanna come over and watch a movie?" aka "i wanna fuck...... oh sorry i mean love ... youhhuuu" bullshit - having a drink is just like a nasty "innocent" forplay before he or she tries to eyefucks you into his/her bed. as long as it's not the sister, mother or whatever kind of family member of your boyfriend, a girl with a dick between "her" legs or homosexual female - don't fucking trust her that she'll never even think about hooking up with your man. women are as thirsty for approval as men, getting positive feedback while flirting the last precum out of your boyfriend's dick is just as satisfying as when dude B gets you to flirt back, knowing you have a boyfriend at home. it's just about ego jerking - and you want to bet if it's only that or getting laid in the end?

so you say you don't care if it's only flirting - ok fine - but my ego in that matter is too big, i'm one catch of a woman and hell no i don't tolerate that other woman stroke their wack ego with the approval of my man. you have to see it this way, they abuse your boyfriend to get an ego stroke - they don't really care for him, neither do all the ego stroker guys care for you - all they want it to get approval from someone who looks good in their eyes. be the alpha wolf, be cleopatra or whatever you want to - other chicks using your man to get their pussies wet? hell no - they can try that wack shit with little pink princesses - we are godesses and a godess doesn't share anything but advice, money or food. i'm not one of those fellow weak beta kitties, so no, sharing is not an option.

but it's pointless when your man is a stupid douchebag whose ego is as wack as the one from bitch next door - so it requires a couple who both know where they belong and work as a team, so when your man has a problem with taking you with him on a "drink" with an "old friend" who has a vajayjay - dump him. i don't give my all, my heart, my soul, my life to a man who gives away ego stroking within seconds to another thirsty bitch - sounds plausible huh? it's called respect my dear, respect for the woman you love. and it's not enough to think you are queen godess if you don't tell your man how it works with you - i might be arrogant in that matter but i'm not a fool - it would be foolish to think that it's enough that you are the "baddest" around, no talk it out with your man, let him know your boundaries.

i'll never cause a scene because i know the toughest punishment for a man - walking away and leaving him back alone with his wack broken ego.

#18 inspired post

it's kind of coward when we curl up on the couch and drown our thoughts in silence just to not release the next shitstorm, maybe eventhough we didn't have one yet. i think of myself as someone who is able to fake a smile if it's neccessary, to keep up the mood - well that's true, but a fake smile will never reach your eyes, or at least not mine. it has a lot to do with trust actually, trust i have in myself and others. am i confident enough to believe that my "complaints" and wishes are important enough to be outspoken? am i confident enough about how others feel about me, so i don't fear rejection or misunderstanding? 

it has a sidetaste of confidence issues - how come? being popular, admired, wanted is nothing you'll find in my childhood/youth repertoire - if you whine about being an option, please fuck yourself, i wasn't even an option to anyone. i was that quirky weird girl with no style, who didn't have a flatiron and looked like a frikkin lamp with her hair, ugly glasses and all the other unpleasent stuff i got cursed with. i had friends though but talkin about dating etc i was like traffic on a lazy sunday - none existent. i experienced a lot of rejection in my life, not just from strangers but also from people i knew, that's ok though because it made me appreciate the smaller things in life. that was all i had left to focus on, so it's a blessing if you look closer.

the world belongs to the popular, pretty faces and bodies - as ugly as it sounds and i hate to say it, but there's a spark of truth in it. it's often way easier to get what you want from others when you have that little extra. so asking for things, knowing you are not one of the benefited ones, comes way harder comes with a little fear of rejection. as hilarious as it sounds, i have a hard time asking for things that bother me, especially from my boyfriend. i often have the feeling he is above my league, although i shoud have realized by now that my influence on men has dramatically changed since back then when i was 14. i know what i'm able to do if i only wanted to, i could get promoted as switzerlands next super whore if i wanted to. but i refuse because i gained a lot of confidence and on top of that selfworth, both mentally and physically.

#11 inspired post

pic/quote by dapper_grandiose_fashion (instagram)

we all do mistakes, we all do things that aren't right - things that can hurt people around us, sometimes we know exactly that if they find out, it will hurt them. lies mostly push you away - more and more - from what you try to achieve by lying.

dear men, most of the time a lady knows when you lie to her - she won't say a thing though, hoping you man up and speak the thruth on your own with your brave heart. she will give you some time to redeem your own nasty behavior, worst thing you can do is to spin a larger and larger web of lies. if you keep on lying you don't only disappoint her, you break her heart & trust.

i don't have to love a man as my partner to be deeply hurt and disappointed - even if some ways split, there remains respect and trust into each other - you probably knew each other for many many years or had a long history together as a couple.
realizing that you were trapped into a decision, maybe giving another last chance, by constantly lying and trying to trigger you with more and more lies - that is something i don't have words for. by turning down to give this chance you should come up with your knowledge, teach him a lesson that lies won't ever bring him further than to the next doorbell. 

everytime you lie, the possibility that she already knows the truth is so big, it's terrible hurting that you lie, but that you keep on with that is more hurting. we aren't as stupid as you wish we'd be - but we are so warmhearted to give you chances over chances to speak up with the truth - until we finally close the door because you lost us, our respect and our trust.

look around you, are you happy now? you lost me, again, i hope she is worth it that you even lost that remaining respect i had for you - as a man. she might know about you asking me for another chance - how can you be with a girl who doesn't have any self respect? i have self respect, i am proud of who i am and i won't stick around while being treated so poorly. because i am a lady and i am proud of my decisions.

#3 ladies only - trust equals respect

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sometimes our own mind plays little nasty games with us, worst case scenarios creep around and surrender knocks heavily on our door. especially if we expect something nice to happen because someone told us so – it’s so easy in fact to run after it because we doubt that it will happen on its own or because we thought it would come around quicker.

i don’t really like to use the word desperation, no it’s more a sign that you don’t trust if you go running after it. a lack of trust is a lack of respect – if you can’t put trust into the smallest things he tells you then you don’t have any trust in him. respecting him means more than just accepting him as he is, it means that you give him your trust and won’t doubt his ability to stick to his statements or promises.

there are reasons why things don’t happen right away or at a time YOU wish for – but that doesn’t mean that they won’t.

knowing that they will happen is big and powerful because it shows your doubtless trust. people underestimate und underrate it all the time – “i love him but i don’t trust him, so i run after him. otherwise he will forget about me and will move on” wrong, wrong, wrong.

there is no love when there is no trust - there might be feelings but love requires earned and given trust. it’s true even when it sounds a bit weird:

“you may not trust someone you love. but you can always love someone you trust”

i would alter it a bit though because there isn’t any love without trust – simple as that. and trust isn’t given from the start, therefore love doesn’t happen overnight! love takes time as the trust grows you have and trust can only grow when fed right. so by running after him you show that he’s not able to match your expectations in your eyes – because if you’d actually trust him then you’d know that he’ll be there and won’t forget about you. that’s why there is no reason to cause a scene when things don’t happen according to your “timeline”, it would show that you lacked trust while you indeed waited! that’s the big difference between waiting, doubting, fearing, disrespecting & knowing, trusting, respecting!

no obvious evidence that he broke your trust? no fearful desperation needed until it’s proven otherwise! weak love will never build up a loving and stable home.

if you can bring up doubtless and genuine trust – then you carry strong love for him in your heart.