#26 ladies only - unred-flag your love life

girl, god gave you intuition for a reason - to prevent you from doing things that turn out as a total failure.

we are far from perfect, so yes we get trapped into failure from time to time. but if you fell off your bike in childhood then you learned from it, so the next time you'll wear a helmet and avoid thrilling but dangerous ramps - hopefully, if you aren't a freak and enjoy pain and adrenalin. but this isn't a holla at my hoes blog, this is a blog for women who know what they want in life and get their asses up and achieve that motherfucking status as THE lady in a man's life.

and of course one might say you learn by experience - so you should collect a handful of that - but if you did some "experience collecting" and you just cry after man nr 3 then there is definitely something wrong in the way you learn - cuz regarding the circumstances - you didn't learn anything. i'm talking about the typical "red flag" problems women face since ever, there is always the possibility that you broke up for bad reasons (family or whatever). but you know and i know that most break ups were just a matter of time - worse are those hilarious on-off hoppers. hearing your bff girl complaining on the phone since.. ehm.. ever? and probably you aren't any better but you still keep up the hope for true love to hit you sideways.

i'm just tired of excuses - excuses us women come up with to cover up shitty behavior from our so called partner. desperate women will search for proven-love-evidence to show that he's not all that of a shitty fucktard. well infact as i like to say, if you put sugar on shit that sucker won't turn into a brownie.

laying down the most simple and easiest principles that will surely provent you from grabbing the next wannabe-shit-brownie

#1 if he looks like a womanizer - he is a womanizer

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ok in his case i'd say he is a girlnizer but you get what i point out - when he has the vibe of a so called player, talks like one - although weak vajayjay will get wet like a waterfall - 99% he is a damn player. you see it in the way he walks, poses, amount of selfies he has on facebook or just in general how in love he is with himself and shows off. they show off their balls like historical dinosaurs who want to attract a mate - yo this is 2014 the more he shows off the more he turns me off cause in the end the world evolves around him - only him - oh did i mention... him?! no you don't want an egocentric womanizer where you have to chop off his groupie bitches like machete would do. nah nah headache ahead - big time. and if you think u da gamechanger - sorry hun you ain't a damn gamechanger cuz if so you wouldn't have to read my blog.

#2 sexting on the phone - phone l.o.v.e

i know your vajayjay probably starves for a little wetty wets but don't - never - give in to sexting as long as you two aren't in a commited relationship. the faster you give in the lower he'll handle you on his hitlist - once you're mainly pussy in his eyes you'll hardly move on from there. sad but you don't even need to sleep with him to get stuck in the pussyzone, you already opened your legs via phone. it's like running low on gas in a fucking desert. it's bad enough if you are an emotional whore / physical whore but don't turn into a phone whore. i know it's thrilling and exciting to flirt on the phone but the more you communicate via phone the lesser you'll have chances to bond with him in person. fucktards will mostly use their damn phone to communicate with you, texting you 24/7 in the beginning and then either they hit nd quit it and got bored of your too willing vajayjay or you showed him your lovely emotional whore side. keep texting to the minimum, acceptable are sweet good mornings/goodnights and planing dates with you. so you talk with your crush on the phone 24/7 - uh you must be so close - nah forget that shit. real effort requires real time together, face to face.

#3 wack effort - wack budget dates

 

there's nothing wrong with being low on money but there's def something wrong with being all greedy and being monty-burns-like. if a guy realy wants you then a quickie at MC DO isn't enough! it's not enough to simply want to fulfill the "necessary" amounts of dates and simply fulfill it with cheapos like MC DO - ehm sorry u ain't messing with a cheap hoe hoe over here. it's about the effort you put into our date and no - "it's whatever u like"  - too easy too cheap. oh another cheapo is "wanna come over and watch some dvd "ehm dude, no I ain't gonna suck ur dick just like that." - girls it's about quality time, it's about quality effort he wants to put into getting to know you. how much is he really interested into getting to know you, the real you behind all those shy giggles and makeup. bringing up some effort gets those players some cheap pussy and at times dramatic pussy. girl you ain't one of those cheapos.

#22 ladies only - men love bitches

she looks fab, she's bad, she pulls men's attention like light does with flies so they buzz around it until they burn, she never runs out of men wanting to be with her (probably for fucking her anyways but that's not the point), she isn't all nicey nicey so she drops her potencial lovers within seconds, she has a cocky attitude , she is a bitch in the eyes of others - why the fuck are men so fascinated by her and keep chasing that bitch when you can't keep a man's attention and effort although you see yourself as every man's blessing? do you find yourself in situations thinking "dude, why can't you see with anything else than your avarage dick and see what kind of wifey-type i am?" probably continuing with "i'm different/my pussy rides cock like no one else/i'm like the creme de la creme/i'm not a basic bitch/etc"

well the difference between you and mrs bitch-who-pulls-more-attention-than-you-and-gets-the-guy is simple: she thinks AND acts like she is a big catch for no man to miss, if he does then she waves a big "get outta my eyeseight dude" sign. it is irrelevant if she is a nice person with a good heart or if she'd be a loving girlfriend who supports her man and cares for him - i bet most of those "successful" maneaters are drop dead wasted souls with no gut at all - BUT and here's what you should learn from those superior bitches: they might be stupid and cocky and all that stuff that would make you give them a high five with a chair but they have boundaries and furthermore they stick to them regardless if mr average knocks on their door or if mr omg-he's-hot does so. they treat every man equal, they don't allow themselves to unleash their inner emotional whore who ruins everything and gives you a free seat to destination "heartbrake", no they keep themselves in check and have clear dating rules.

trust me ladies, i'm the last one who likes cocky, narcissistic, stupid barbie bitches who show off nonstop - looking fab with their makeup 23/7, running around "naked" one hour of the day when they scratch that shit off their faces and look basic just like everyone of us does when we wake up. i dislike women whose minds are dry like the dessert, the only impression they can make is with their perfect outlook and the only concerns they deal with are "where did you get those high heels / omg why isn't my name on the guestlist" - but it's not about what you think of those girls, at the end of the day they attract more potencial lovers than you. don't panic you don't need - and please, really don't consider that - to transform into the next superbitch, you wouldn't feel happy with it in the long run nor your friends or family. no one likes fucked up bitches - not even men - they don't run after their cocky narcissistic asses, they get hooked because those women challenge them, they give them a great possibility to conquer something - men love to conquer! and it's not explicit about how long or how hard the conquest is, it's about "feeling" that there is something to lock down before someone else does because it seems so promising and great. maybe it's just that mysterious thing about those women because they keep those men at armslength emotionally and physically. as i mentioned once, having sex on the first date isn't a complete no go - it's about how you act afterwards.

let's have a seat, grab some icecream or wine - oh did i mention i prefer captain morgan - however, let's start with this overview where i compare mrs basic bitch with mrs bitch-who-gets-the-guy.

initiating via texting (whatsapp/fb/mail/etc)

basic bitch: initiates - texts him first almost every time
alpha wolf: doesn't initiate - texts him back equally to the amount he texts if not even less - isn't glued to the phone waiting for him to text

basic texting

basic bitch: texts more than he does - continues textshitting him even if he didn't reply to her last text - drowns him with smileys especially if he started sending those stupid heart smileys eventhough he doesn't know her really - texts him essays - texts back asap

alpha wolf: texts him back equally to the amount of his replies - doesn't continue texting when she didn't get a reply - doesn't send any of those emotional smileys - doesn't text essays - texts in a nice short way - doesn't always reply in an instant because she has other things on her mind

he doesn't call / he "disappears" suddenly / he becomes unreliable

basic bitch: texts him from time to time hoping things win back intensity - if he comes back after he didn't write her for a few days/weeks although he was supposed to answer her last text, she replies gladfully in an instant - doesn't question his intentions or why he disappeared without a word - tries to play it cool although she is disappointed somehow

bitch: doesn't run after him - she cuts him off completely because she knows a man who is truly interested won't disappear out of nothing 

just to name some differences between a basic bitch and bitch-who-gets-the-guy, i bet we were all in the role of the basic bitch at some time and where did it lead us? it lead me straight to a big heartbrake, to lasting disappointment, trust issues and lasting anger until today haha although i can laugh about it now - but the most important aspect of my big heartbrake: it formed me to a more cautious, more confident, more assertive, more selective woman - i'm like jess 2.0 - don't you think women of that 2.0 type don't get confronted with douchebags, all women get confronted cuz a man can't know in advance by only looking at you that you are now an alpha wolf and not some pink pussy shit anymore. but the main difference here is alpha wolf lady might get confronted but she'll draw the lines of her boundaries faster than that motherfucker can plan out how to get between her legs and pull the famous "hit nd' quit it". let's see it this way it's a win-win situation, she doesn't waste her precious time and nerves and he can move on to an easier prey.

men will knock on your door, no matter if you're a beta kitten or an alpha wolf, because men try, because men often are too lazy to find new pussy, so it's easier to go back to what they already had once or more - but it's your own choice who you let in. remember what you've been through till now, remember those times when you were waiting for him to reply and he simply didn't although he was online non stop (oh i had that situation too), remember those times when he dumped plans with you last minute, remember pain because there is a reason why we feel pain - to safe us from more unnecassary pain, to safe us from making the same mistake twice. i know it's hard for many of us women, but once you become version 2.0 you'll never go back.

it's not about becoming mean - men same as women hate stupid mean antisocial bitches - it's about reconsidering your behavior and learning from your mistakes. learn to draw lines, boundarie lines, around you and your heart - become somewhat of a diva without coming over as mean or cocky. don't be a basic bitch - i don't care if you think you think like a boss, work like a boss and fuck like a boss - that's just a wack try to stand out of the crowd but at the end of the day you weren't able to kick out his stupid ass, you run after him, you give too many chances, you open your legs and his friends know you are an attention whore who gets laid whenever you give that sheep some candy - don't be a sheep that gets fucked by the nasty farmer cuz that's what happens to sheep. 

#21 ladies only - trust no bitch

c'mon look at that laugh - ok silvie doesn't look any less evil but if you haven't heard it: her bff (on the right) is together with her ex husband (like wtf is wrong with you?!) and now she's preggo from him - hiiiiiigh five with a chair i'd say. deep shit friendship over here huh?! of course her ex isn't any better than her stupid bff.

however if they still get along or not - it's obviously: don't trust anything that bleeds once a months and didn't die yet! 

all women's vajayjays are as sneaky as the stupid bitch next door who you hate for pulling more attention than you ever received. unnecessary to mention that quality goes over quantity, remember? no one can speak for the entire humanity but trust me, being selfish, greedy and reckless is in our female dna - why? - we still have unconcious behavior from our ancestors from thousand and thousand of years ago, pairing ourselves only with the best male around so chances are bigger that the children will grow healthy and strong. they didn't give a fuck if they were sharing a man or if they had to ellbow bitchfight to get the best man - they wanted him and they did everything possible to succeed. no need to tell you how "loose" today's society is huh and that bitches still don't give a fuck?

people interact differently but i'm honestly not - let me repeat: n o t - a fan of sharing my man on any scale. sure others don't see it as a biggie to let their bf/gf go out with the opposite sex but c'mon why don't they see a problem with it? it's simple, if they don't tell you to not meet other guys/girls they are allowed themselves to do so without you havin a reason to bitch around. smart ass huh?! nah nah nah naaaaaah my dear - not with me - i don't fucking care if it has to do with trust issues or confidence issues, i give a fuck about my ego in that case so go ahead and call me jealous, needi or what - but i can tell you one thing: every man who contacts you or looks for a reason to talk to you or even see you wants something from you. wether it's flirting to push his wack ego or evening the way to get into your panties after he got you on his hook - ego stroking is even harder when you have a bf and the other guy succeeds with flirting or asking you out for a drink.

oh c'mon this whole "let's have a drink" especially with that stupid wink smiley - is the same as the old and almost forgotten "hey wanna come over and watch a movie?" aka "i wanna fuck...... oh sorry i mean love ... youhhuuu" bullshit - having a drink is just like a nasty "innocent" forplay before he or she tries to eyefucks you into his/her bed. as long as it's not the sister, mother or whatever kind of family member of your boyfriend, a girl with a dick between "her" legs or homosexual female - don't fucking trust her that she'll never even think about hooking up with your man. women are as thirsty for approval as men, getting positive feedback while flirting the last precum out of your boyfriend's dick is just as satisfying as when dude B gets you to flirt back, knowing you have a boyfriend at home. it's just about ego jerking - and you want to bet if it's only that or getting laid in the end?

so you say you don't care if it's only flirting - ok fine - but my ego in that matter is too big, i'm one catch of a woman and hell no i don't tolerate that other woman stroke their wack ego with the approval of my man. you have to see it this way, they abuse your boyfriend to get an ego stroke - they don't really care for him, neither do all the ego stroker guys care for you - all they want it to get approval from someone who looks good in their eyes. be the alpha wolf, be cleopatra or whatever you want to - other chicks using your man to get their pussies wet? hell no - they can try that wack shit with little pink princesses - we are godesses and a godess doesn't share anything but advice, money or food. i'm not one of those fellow weak beta kitties, so no, sharing is not an option.

but it's pointless when your man is a stupid douchebag whose ego is as wack as the one from bitch next door - so it requires a couple who both know where they belong and work as a team, so when your man has a problem with taking you with him on a "drink" with an "old friend" who has a vajayjay - dump him. i don't give my all, my heart, my soul, my life to a man who gives away ego stroking within seconds to another thirsty bitch - sounds plausible huh? it's called respect my dear, respect for the woman you love. and it's not enough to think you are queen godess if you don't tell your man how it works with you - i might be arrogant in that matter but i'm not a fool - it would be foolish to think that it's enough that you are the "baddest" around, no talk it out with your man, let him know your boundaries.

i'll never cause a scene because i know the toughest punishment for a man - walking away and leaving him back alone with his wack broken ego.

#10 ladies only - dump his ass

▪ in my eyes the dating world is fucked up - thanks to both men and women who act fucked up coward. girls cry nd wait around for prince charming to get his lazy ass out of the tree - why? because we all had those moments when we tried to pursue, tried to push it to the next level - beside that this is so wrong, whiping off his lazy ass and adapt the male courting role - and we got pushed away. so we got all scared and decided to wait and wait, oh yes, and wait. we take lots of his shitty hot nd cold behavior, disappearing acts, no calls, no txts etc - instead of getting pissed nd dump his ass we make up with silly excuses "he's busy", "workaholic", "he needs time", "he's shy". 

ok now all together: B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T! 

it's significant how a guy's behavior can change after sex and so does our behavior change, like walkin on eggshells. if u reach the 2nd base with a guy - and in my opinion this means sex - then its like signing an unspoken contract. (not talkin about one night stands) if he gets the honor to earn your trust and gets intimate with you then his morals and respect should be so high that he knows how to act after sex. there are two simple options: 

1. put as much effort into getting to know u as he did before if he is interested 

OR 2. tell u within a few days that he's not that into you. 

no, us ladies don't get your coward "get the hint" behavior - stop stringing us along! man up, if you are man enough to put it in then be man enough to quit it soon enough. I made up my mind and that's where my power is: I have nothing to lose. so no, I won't chase you, I won't buy your cheap excuses, I won't let myself be stringed along, I won't let u disappear and get back like nothing happend. I'm open, I'm blunt and I know my worth - after a couple of days I'll confront a man's lazy ass and if he doesn't step up then I wave my sign - BYE BYE! cuz I'm not scared at all to "lose" something I never really had in the first place. think about it - the right guy will keep up his effort and interest over moooonths without lacking. 

so what did ur prince charming do?! few txts per week?! few times he actually cared enough to ask in detail how u doin, how ur day was, how YOU FEEL?! nah??? dump his ass, he has other options nd you are not important enough for him to focus on you. why should he be ur #1?!?!?! u r probably not even his #2,#3 or #4!!!! know ur worth and the right man will notice that. ▪ - Sarah Jessica

#11 inspired post

pic/quote by dapper_grandiose_fashion (instagram)

we all do mistakes, we all do things that aren't right - things that can hurt people around us, sometimes we know exactly that if they find out, it will hurt them. lies mostly push you away - more and more - from what you try to achieve by lying.

dear men, most of the time a lady knows when you lie to her - she won't say a thing though, hoping you man up and speak the thruth on your own with your brave heart. she will give you some time to redeem your own nasty behavior, worst thing you can do is to spin a larger and larger web of lies. if you keep on lying you don't only disappoint her, you break her heart & trust.

i don't have to love a man as my partner to be deeply hurt and disappointed - even if some ways split, there remains respect and trust into each other - you probably knew each other for many many years or had a long history together as a couple.
realizing that you were trapped into a decision, maybe giving another last chance, by constantly lying and trying to trigger you with more and more lies - that is something i don't have words for. by turning down to give this chance you should come up with your knowledge, teach him a lesson that lies won't ever bring him further than to the next doorbell. 

everytime you lie, the possibility that she already knows the truth is so big, it's terrible hurting that you lie, but that you keep on with that is more hurting. we aren't as stupid as you wish we'd be - but we are so warmhearted to give you chances over chances to speak up with the truth - until we finally close the door because you lost us, our respect and our trust.

look around you, are you happy now? you lost me, again, i hope she is worth it that you even lost that remaining respect i had for you - as a man. she might know about you asking me for another chance - how can you be with a girl who doesn't have any self respect? i have self respect, i am proud of who i am and i won't stick around while being treated so poorly. because i am a lady and i am proud of my decisions.