#3 ladies only - trust equals respect

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sometimes our own mind plays little nasty games with us, worst case scenarios creep around and surrender knocks heavily on our door. especially if we expect something nice to happen because someone told us so – it’s so easy in fact to run after it because we doubt that it will happen on its own or because we thought it would come around quicker.

i don’t really like to use the word desperation, no it’s more a sign that you don’t trust if you go running after it. a lack of trust is a lack of respect – if you can’t put trust into the smallest things he tells you then you don’t have any trust in him. respecting him means more than just accepting him as he is, it means that you give him your trust and won’t doubt his ability to stick to his statements or promises.

there are reasons why things don’t happen right away or at a time YOU wish for – but that doesn’t mean that they won’t.

knowing that they will happen is big and powerful because it shows your doubtless trust. people underestimate und underrate it all the time – “i love him but i don’t trust him, so i run after him. otherwise he will forget about me and will move on” wrong, wrong, wrong.

there is no love when there is no trust - there might be feelings but love requires earned and given trust. it’s true even when it sounds a bit weird:

“you may not trust someone you love. but you can always love someone you trust”

i would alter it a bit though because there isn’t any love without trust – simple as that. and trust isn’t given from the start, therefore love doesn’t happen overnight! love takes time as the trust grows you have and trust can only grow when fed right. so by running after him you show that he’s not able to match your expectations in your eyes – because if you’d actually trust him then you’d know that he’ll be there and won’t forget about you. that’s why there is no reason to cause a scene when things don’t happen according to your “timeline”, it would show that you lacked trust while you indeed waited! that’s the big difference between waiting, doubting, fearing, disrespecting & knowing, trusting, respecting!

no obvious evidence that he broke your trust? no fearful desperation needed until it’s proven otherwise! weak love will never build up a loving and stable home.

if you can bring up doubtless and genuine trust – then you carry strong love for him in your heart.