Mittwoch, 30. Oktober 2013

#20 ladies only - stupid and stupid match great




ok before i can't stop shaking my head and rolling my damn eyes until they stay that way and i end up looking like a retard - let me quote robyn's lyrics from her song "indestructible"

And I never was smart with love
I let the bad ones in and the good ones go
But I'm gonna love you like I've never been hurt before
I'm gonna love you like I'm indestructible
Your love is ultra magnetic and
it's taking over
This is hardcore
Ooh and I'm gonna love you like
Like I've never been hurt before


ehm no girl, this isn't hardcore this is deep down stupidity which reaches the core of your pussy and unfortunetely not your brain - oh wait sorry, robyn was right. this is ultra hardcore - hardcore stupidity which deserves a hardcore slap in yo vajayjay to wake you up from this pink pony fairytale shit trip you're on.

couldn't resist to use this meme generator muhaha

i know your new crush or your new boyfriend is super exciting and you go nuts whenever you see him, almost throwing your panties after him and praising him like he's a fucking adonis with his magic stick. new person, new love, new chances - i get it - but how come so many women who are new in a relationship let down their boundaries and allow the relationship to fail just because they let themselves get blinded by hormones or their itchy vajayjay? suddenly starting to doubt that he's not all about that good boyfriend-material shit, you thought he was in the beginning. they don't change over night, it's because you let them!


why? because you don't use your gained experiences from the past relationships, because you roll in like a toddler on his trycycle for the first time although you know that when you don't set boundaries and be careful it's doomed to fail, bullshitting yourself that he'll stay this courteous, charming, helping and generous as he is now - just because it's all new, exciting, romantic, cheesy and you are way too busy being in love with him. you experienced hurt from your past relationships for a reason and the reason is def not to experience the same shit again because you make it too damn easy for him to bend your boundaries and put you into a role you aren't comfortable in. men get used to routines pretty fast and as long as you don't change things, it's your own fault. why blame him for bending your boundaries? yeh it's hard and yeh it might come over as unfair but men should be man enough to prove themselves without whining how unfair it is that you don't throw your trust after them. trust is earned - because trust is one of the most valuable things in a relationship, you can't just throw it after him girl. but let me say that i'm very proud of my fellow superwomen who also chose to allow themselves to expect, you are on the right way. eventhough it means you turn down many so called "chances" ppfffff if they were real chances they'd measure up to your requirements. so don't be sad and don't get frustrated - you reached a point many women didn't reach yet. it will get better and it will be worth it, i promise.

you might have been hurt before, you might have been lied to before, you might have been cheated on before - so why the fuck should you love him like you've never been hurt before? oh he's not like that bla bla no he's different bla bla - let him prove! that would be blind, naive and plain stupid. you know i'm all about this cute romantic stuff but at the same time i keep my boundaries and principles. i don't drown my boyfriend with love or trust and whipe his ass all the way up so he feels mothered, because no - i'm not his mother, i'm his girlfriend. he knows exactly what i expect from him because i let him know, he knows that my trust and love is earned and not given freely - that's why he holds up his efforts which are genuine.  if he wasn't in for the homerun he'd be swinging his bat half assed with half assed efforts and i'd be gone in no time.

there is no secret or so - it's simple. don't be afraid to be alone - because if you are then you get desperate, easy to bend, easy to use, easy to replace - and no, you don't want that. learn from mistakes and hold your head up, no need to feel ashamed as long as you are willing to accept them and learn from them. men aren't that bad, who do you want to blame - the sheep for opening the door instead of keeping it closed or the wolf for walking through the open door? keep your memories close at hand because that way you won't make the same mistakes twice.





Mittwoch, 23. Oktober 2013

#18 inspired post


it's kind of coward when we curl up on the couch and drown our thoughts in silence just to not release the next shitstorm, maybe eventhough we didn't have one yet. i think of myself as someone who is able to fake a smile if it's neccessary, to keep up the mood - well that's true, but a fake smile will never reach your eyes, or at least not mine. it has a lot to do with trust actually, trust i have in myself and others. am i confident enough to believe that my "complaints" and wishes are important enough to be outspoken? am i confident enough about how others feel about me, so i don't fear rejection or misunderstanding? 

it has a sidetaste of confidence issues - how come? being popular, admired, wanted is nothing you'll find in my childhood/youth repertoire - if you whine about being an option, please fuck yourself, i wasn't even an option to anyone. i was that quirky weird girl with no style, who didn't have a flatiron and looked like a frikkin lamp with her hair, ugly glasses and all the other unpleasent stuff i got cursed with. i had friends though but talkin about dating etc i was like traffic on a lazy sunday - none existent. i experienced a lot of rejection in my life, not just from strangers but also from people i knew, that's ok though because it made me appreciate the smaller things in life. that was all i had left to focus on, so it's a blessing if you look closer.

the world belongs to the popular, pretty faces and bodies - as ugly as it sounds and i hate to say it, but there's a spark of truth in it. it's often way easier to get what you want from others when you have that little extra. so asking for things, knowing you are not one of the benefited ones, comes way harder comes with a little fear of rejection. as hilarious as it sounds, i have a hard time asking for things that bother me, especially from my boyfriend. i often have the feeling he is above my league, although i shoud have realized by now that my influence on men has dramatically changed since back then when i was 14. i know what i'm able to do if i only wanted to, i could get promoted as switzerlands next super whore if i wanted to. but i refuse because i gained a lot of confidence and on top of that selfworth, both mentally and physically.

Mittwoch, 16. Oktober 2013

#19 ladies only - emotionally stripping

pic/quote by thecrazytruth.tumblr.com

people look better with their clothes on, that way you can accentuate your favorite features as a nice decolté, a nice waist or nice legs - however using clothes or accessories as a tool to cover, push or underline is the same as wearing a wall around your heart and mind. are you able to fully undress yourself infront of someone you don't know that long, someone newer in your life or even someone who you know for years? are you able to fully let down your defence and become vulnurable?

defining letting down is relative, i'm talking about exposing yourself 100%, knowing you could get hit on any place, especially your heart. but how are you able to progress, to rise above superficialty if you hide in your safe zone? we find many excuses to play hide and seek - i don't want to stress him, i don't want to bother him, i don't want him to turn away from me. laying bare your inner thoughts, fears, wishes and worries is hard, i know. some of you made more or less hurtful experiences in the past, bitter rejection, foolish illusions which faded into far catched unfulfilled dreams, harsh critism, cruel judgement, getting thrown away and replaced like a broken piece of a machine. that's what holds you back from undressing mentally and emotionally again because you did it once.

yeh some of us experienced such stuff more or less and depending on our emotional state we carry those wounds for a longer time and any hints on going through the same feels like pouring 1kg salt into our wound and rubbing that shit in. fear and insecurity crawls in our mind and takes over if we allow it to. i'm not one of those women myself who walk through life with their nose up high thinking they're the next american top model - i know i have charisma, i know i have something about me, i know i have the right curves - a lot of people see me as a very confident woman but honestly i'm not aware of coming over as that. because my mind is invaded by those nasty insecurites, i'm quick to compare myself to others and i'm quick to pull myself down. but i'm doing better by now because i love myself by now.

oh size 0? sorry, i don't have that i'm a size 38 (european) and i like my feminine grown body that clearly doesn't look like a body of a 14yr old. oh 50kg? sorry i don't have that i'm 63kg. oh you were always skinny? sorry, i was always a little thicker than other kids since elementary school. oh you go to gym 24/7 and do pilates for your apple ass? sorry, i don't do that, i don't have an ass like an apple because you can't grab my ass with one hand only - you need both. oh you wear that wonderbra from VS and your boobs look like grenades? sorry, i don't wear wonderbras because my boobs are bombs, not grenades. i'm a grown woman and i'm 23yrs old and i have no intention to look like a teenager.

but i'll never allow myself again to lose focus on my looks and health, because even feelings have boundaries and before deepest love comes along, those feelings are superficial and looks are deceiving. so remind yourself from time to time to love yourself, to love what god gave you and make healthy food and a balanced workout your priority. maybe you'll find someone who love you for yourself, for your inner beauty - maybe someone who can put down his own superficial blindfold and actually see you and won't try to shape you into what he desires sexually. because true love and therefor purest intimate sexuality comes from the heart. lusty sex can't hold it against sex out of love. but that takes time, takes effort, takes feelings, takes gut to fully undress so you are able to have sex on that high emotional level - because as long as you have one of your clothes on, you know you aren't there yet.

Dienstag, 15. Oktober 2013

#19 inspired post

pic by sacrifice4.deviantart.com

dippin in my toe
it's freezing cold i guess
down at the bottom there it is
deep down it lays and waits 

i'm about to dive in
just one more moment, just one more second 
i'm on my feet walkin my ground round and round
ain't a born diver into unknown depth
take a deep breath

i know how the air smells, how it feels
i know where the wind turns, where it goes
i know the sand under my feet
i know the seasons and how they change 
i know i know i know

and still i know nothing
scratching on the surface of my mind
it's time to take a deep breath
and count to 10

1... where do i go
2.... i don't know
3... how deep will it be
4... there won't be only me
5... how do i breath there
6...  running out of air
7... i open my eyes
8... girl that was wise
9... depth will caress
10... because love is us

alter personas lay there
burried in the ground
reaching out for me
how can it be?
whispering sweet melodies of how it should be

let me release you
i bring them to the surface
now we switch for the moment
switch for a day, switch till next may

Montag, 14. Oktober 2013

#18 ladies only - forge the steal as long as it's hot


so you are new in this relationship - we have two individuals who are more or less alike - us women tend to walk on eggshells when handling our boyfriend in the beginning. why do we do this? are we afraid he might turn around and run away as soon as we "pressure" him in any way? do we shut up & "ignore" behavior on purpose so we can keep up the "honeymoon phase"? yeh you do, we all did this at some time.

i honestly don't think this is going to work because my mum once told me to forge the steal while it's hot - means as long as it's fresh/new/unknown you still have bigger chances to "form" your relationship according to both of your needs. but how should you do it? every man has his habits, wether it's gaming, being lazy, being messy or whatever - that's not the point - if you shut up nd act like it doesn't bother you that his bed room is a mess, his car is a dump or he's busy playing fifa 14 the whole time then it's your own fault. why sit there, fake a smile and wait for him to read your mind?

same goes with your interactions with others, i admit i'm a very territorial woman - so what? i'm confident enough to not actually worry but that doesn't mean that i'll ignore stuff that bothers me - especially here applies our new rule: forge that shit before it gets cold nd someone else forges it. it all depends on how you say it, you don't want to sound insecure and pathetic, i understand but not having the gut to speak up is just as insecure and pathetic. i told my bf straight from the beginning that whatever he does, he should second guess himself if he would still do the same if i would be standing next to him. so if the answer is no, then just don't do it. he told me in the same way what he expects from me as his girlfriend. that's legit, that's fair, that's how it should be. i like him being territorial himself - mmmhhhh ladies love to feel protected and valued.

don't act insecure
instead of: "am i the only one in your eyes? would you ever cheat on me? do you think she's prettier than me" (omg it makes me shrug to even think about speaking out those words lol)
you better say: "babe i just want you to know that i'm not into this sharing is caring stuff, ok? i'm not a woman to share her man. you wouldn't want to share me either. so if you want me to be your girl, i'll be the only one"

don't act like a psycho
instead of: "imma bust yo windows out ya car man if i ever catch you cheating on me and i'll beat up that other bitch, don't you ever fuck with me, i'm serious"
you better say: "i'll never cause you a scene, because you know what the best punishment for a man is who cheats? i'll simply walk out of your life and that's it, we are done and no i'm not in mum teresa mood, so no 2nd chances"

don't act like you are his mum
instead of: "your room is a mess, when u going to tidy up?! man when was the last time you did laundry?" or even worse "i'm so sick of your mess, i'm going to clean it now on my own"
you better say: "honey look, i folded some of your laundry and placed it next to your bed, could you please collect your laundry when you change - what about doing laundry once a week?" or "babe could you please take out the trash and don't forget the bottles in your room. could you please do that too?"



well, the trick is simple: don't be a mess yourself - why should he do it any better if you can't manage to be tidy and all that yourself? your kitchen is a mess, you have 1000kg laundry, you don't clean that much - it's not fair nor is it in any way legit to ask for things when you can't do it on your own. a confident woman is a woman with boundaries, boundaries she sets for herself and others who are in her life. a confident woman won't have as much problems with her man as an insecure woman.

Freitag, 11. Oktober 2013

#17 ladies only - the pussy curse






it's real, it's everywhere, it is or was in you and me - like a frikkin apple allergy that gets your throat swollen as soon as you eat from the forbidden apple. you know it and you'll do it over and over again until you suffocate from that motherfucker.

i know many women who are or were in this fucked up situation - like poison it infiltrates their mind and pussy takes the lead without any common sense. selfworth, selfrespect, dignity? what's that?! can you eat that shit? oh girl... ask your bff to slap you real hard or eat that apple nd suffocate. i know how it is, no matter who tells you that you are out of your mind, that you should stop bla bla bla you simply won't because you didn't crash hard enough by now or didn't find someone better.

sounds hard huh? but there are just two possibilities: crash so hard that your pussy gets knocked out nd your common sense takes back the lead or mr right aka mr better smashes you sideways with his amazing self so all you can and want to see is him. otherwise you are doomed to be a slave of your own lusty foolish pussy and she'll whisper with sweet promises that mr wrong will change. you look at him like he's mr adonis with a white horse but in reality you are looking at a damn frog with a crappy gray pony - grab that sucker nd smash it against the wall - nooooo, better, drop him from a cliff and sing "bye bye bye oh you damn fucktard aha aha i like iiiiiit aha aha fuck yoouuuhhuuu" *nsync style*

i had a long nd hard time to realize that this apple doesn't do me any good nd all it wants is to get devoured nd suffocate me - i crashed so hard that you could scratch me off the floor but that's how i learned to let go nd dictated my pussy where it belongs - down there nd not in my head. so in conclusion: you'll stay pussy cursed until you release yourself or get released - until then, have fun, crash hard - but the day will come soon enough when you wake up and realize. so don't worry too much and don't bash yourself too much because everyone else is fingerpointing.

trust me, as soon as you master this step - wether you made it on your own or mr best released your poor pussy - and mr fucktard comes back - and oh he will because it's his game that he's running with you - satisfaction will be sooooo big that you want to jerk off 10 times. same here, mr big returned with a txt last night nd i whipped it off my shoulder like a boss... took me over half a year to be as tough as i am now - told him to stop txting me cuz it's over.


Dienstag, 8. Oktober 2013

#16 ladies only - ps: zip code venus


what is it that reassures you that you know me, that you know every little move, every little respond of my mind? it's meaningless, it's pointless, it's irrational - because you were wrong. i was wrong, we were wrong, they were wrong.

you can bet all u got that after the 60th second it all starts with the first second of the next minute - and I bet in insanity that i didn't want to be in a relationship weeks ago. i was there, talkin loudly to myself, cheeky smile... oh we know that look in our eyes when we release our inner rebel or maybe you know her by the name inner bitch. like a fox, just right before we go and kill that chicken we sit there, with a grin from ear to ear... knowing we are about to do something.

i was so sure that all i wanted was to run free, to run out of breath, out of sanity - just so i can lay on that floor and say "i'm single, i'm free, now fuck off and let me be me" - i was so in mind madness to the point that just a little word, just a little something could cause me to burst out like godzilla - i felt cornered, cornered in a situation i didn't like to be in with this person. but here we go with our lessons learned "unhappy? fine. change it. or shut the fuck up".

oh life, i get you, what a funny motherfucker you are - i was on my own free run, living that "i do whatever i want to nd there's nothing u can say or do about it" and to all of you lusty suckers, no, it's not about hooking up - it's just about leaving home, going out, getting lost, freaking out and going home whenever i wanted to, without obeying my inner mum teresa to text some people i actually didn't wan to txt. mean bitch huh? i wasn't interested in men at all.

as you can see - it applies to both men and women in almost the same way - if we don't want a relationship then it's because we don't want to be in a relationship with you. think about it the next time when you hear a guy say "i'm not ready for a relationship bla bla i need time bla bla" aaaaah shoot yourself please, move on girl, it's a waste of time if you wait and wait and wait for someone who doesn't want you! they might take you as appetizer, until the main course gets served and you my dear aren't the main course.

we definitely live in another city, with another zip code - zip code venus - but we are from the same planet. but whatever we do, we do it with honesty. if you hurt, then hurt with honesty and not with lies. if you leave, leave in one motion and not halfassed. all or nothing. black or white. that's what sets us apart from fucked up douchebags.

Donnerstag, 3. Oktober 2013

#15 ladies only - they don't fear commitment



many of us tend to say "he got some serious commitment issues" but the truth is way easier to understand and accept.

every man has criterias, different ones, subconscious and conscious ones, superficial and true ones. yeh one might say they only choose with their dick but they don't. thats also why sex on the first date isn't 100% a game over for a relationship - it can even boost you on your way to his heart. remember you'll have a longer time buying that new car when you didn't test drive it - right? - imagine you two have a bombe chemistry you havin a good time, laugh, talk, eat something etc and then it happens - one of the biggest taboos in our female head - sex on the first date - after that it all depends on how you act.

ok you climaxed, he blew your mind and you really think you start to like him more than you should - stop there - go your own way, don't cling to him, don't ask for his number, don't give it that day. get up, get dressed, spend a few more hours with him and take the chance to get to know him better. i bet he'll be confused by the way you act, not so clingy and crazy like those other chicks. leave before he asks you to leave - i know you want to spend time with this sexy mofu but hold on girl - don't add him on fb for the next days. now you give him time to evaluate the situation, I'm not a fan of holding back under the sheets, so fuck him like a pornstar baby, enjoy it, let down and give him that test drive.

be yourself but keep your inner emotional whore in check for now, you like him - fine - you like him a lot - fine - but don't let him know at first. that doesn't mean release your inner bitch - hell no - just be sweet, a little quiet don't tell him your whole life story within 3h - if he wants to find out more then it's up to him. however, give him your number in the next days, txt him your number via fb or whatever. but don't initiate meeting him again, that's his part - that way you make sure his interest is still there and strong enough for him to initiate. be yourself on the next dates - enjoy the time you spend and stop overthinking, act like he's just a good friend. you show him how independent you are, that just because he fucked you up to cloud 7 doesn't mean you are after him.


Mittwoch, 2. Oktober 2013

#2 astrology - aquarius quotes

pic by ilov3mon3y.wordpress.com
my quotes can be found on my twitter account: l3mongrasss

***= nailed it

#aquarius & #libra make a damn good team - joke around like kids, argue like adults, protect eachother like siblings and fuck like pornstars ***

an plays it cool most of the time but if they are in love with you they'll be sweet nd a little shy around you

#aquarius is way too bubbly for 0815 - we'll get depressed in no time ***

#aquarius in love is like an unicorn throwing up rainbows ***

an lady is the one who doesn't mind a jealous lover, infact we feel even more valuable

#aquarius wants to feel possessed and protected by her lover - not caged though but secure ***

#aquarius once they feel fully accepted and understood, they will love unconditionally

as soon as the mind of an starts to dry out because you can't stimulate them enough - they'll walk away. ***

#aquarius doesn't know any boundaries in their mind - our mind is free, a true fantasy world, nothing you can get a hold of

#aquarius enjoys a fresh breeze of inspiration

treat an heart like fire - warm yourself but don't grab it cuz u will get burned

#aquarius' ego knows how loss tastes - cold bitterness with spicy frustration - but it doesn't know surrender because she refuses to order bullshit ***

#aquarius isn't a typical sign to chase others - we turn silent between the bushes nd shoot you straight through your heart.

#aquarius doesn't invest all of her time to simply give up just because the other clown stopped dancing

when stops talkin nd only nods her head - she is like a tickin timebombe, watch your next words.

#aquarius love shouts for addiction

#aquarius appreciates alone time - we are great at communicating but smetimes we love to communicate with silence or we aren't that into you. that's all ***

whats that u hidin behind ur mind? typical concern

#aquarius doesn't leave scratchmarks on ur back - she'll leave them on your wall with her nailpolish

#aquarius is down for bringin heat under your sheets - she'll penetrate you mentally, physically and emotionally.

rumors and gossip don't hold back an from shining bright like a fuckin diamond - straight in ur face ***

#aquarius has a hyper mind - give them too much coffee nd they dive in deep.

#aquarius is a very unpredictable sign, we come up with the weirdest ideas nd go for them. even if we have to do it alone

is it so obvious? is a weird sign. as soon as u think u know us, we'll surprise you that u don't know even half

she fears mind darkness more than darkness itself

leaving you wondering how sweetest winter smells, you'll believe sweetest winter is all you ever needed.

she'll laugh and smile in your face but she'll never show her pain

she'll be the one who haunts your mind each day and night

she arrives as a shy creature, she looks through your mind, she passes you by like a mysterium and she'll leave you wondering

#aquarius reads your mind & heart pretty fast - if you are like a fat fat book, then we'll be highly interested and won't stop wondering

#aquarius will mostly fall in love with a person they admire for being different, inspiring and being a lil mysterious or crazy ***

you'll notice if an is interested or not - they can't hide their cheeky smile and that admiring look in their eyes ***

an doesn't follow trends - we set our own trends!

#aquarius is the sign that will most likely experiment without fearing failure ***

an is good at "fake it till you make it" just so they don't kill the mood when with others.

the heart of an is biiiig, often too big.

#aquarius ladies often go for natural looks but when they doll up, they doll up to make your head turn.

an can be the life of the party and disappear silently in the next moment. ***

every loves fantasy & sci fi stuff ***

a quiet is a thinking aquarius, we can daydream all day, our mind never runs dry - we have a huge imagination.

#aquarius is a very cheerful person with a loud laughter - we always find a reason to laugh ***

an lady is attracted to ppl who are different. no need to tell us, we know if u just playin "I'm different" or if you're real ***

an seems like an open book, don't think you know it all - we know what to tell and what not. we are just way more open!

a real challenge for every - hold in their laughter in serious situations. 9/10x we fail - BADLY ***

the mind of an can't be caught or arrested. our mind is free like the wind - we are the wind, the sun, the clouds and the sky

#aquarius has a weakness for kinky stuff in bedroom ***

#Aquarius is a very risky person - we jump into the cold water without hesitation - mastering every challenge on our own.

an lady won't look the same for a long time - we love to change and recreate ourselves

an lady needs a man who can catch up to her weird humor ***

#aquarius is attracted to those who can teach them new interesting ways and inspire them to look beyond their own horizon ***

the more you let your breath, the more they will return into your arms - happily

#aquarius might come across as aloof sometimes - they are free like the wind, don't try to get a hold on them. don't force them.

#aquarius & is a difficult mix - one second they talk for hours, the next second they devour eachother - in the end they have WW3

#aquarius loves to provoke and shock others with their freeminded way of seeing the world through eyes which reflect rebellion and adventure ***

#aquarius is best with other air signs as libra or gemini , maybe emotional water signs as cancer or pisces since they appreciate deeper connections. just don't be boring

#aquarius add air to fire and watch it grow to an uncontrollable mess - aquarius with aries or leo. explosive

#aquarius ladies can get caught up in daily obligations pretty fast - don't mistake this as disinterest

  appreciates thoughtful lovers who are able to express their love verbally, only actions won't make it for the insecure aquarius ***

same shit different day - rarely says that

what an loves even more than laying in bed all day - laying in bed all day with the one they love

#aquarius is prone to giving away too many chances

if an loses her friends at a party - she'll party on all night long   ***

an has a life full of ups nd downs, "whatever"s and "well shit happens" - you'll rarely hear "what if"

#aquarius ladies will most likely hang with guys - they're not into drama, fake smiles and bitchiness. they make good buddies

an can be very fierceful in their mind & heart

#Aquarians will come nd leave at a party whenever they feel like - like u've never seen it ***

she can sit there all night until her favorite song comes up - your lady will set the floor on fire ***

at a party you'll find an lady happily dancing for herself in a corner - no spotlight diva - she'll observe the crowd

#aquarius women have something bubbly yet mysterious about them, they will stay on your mind

#aquarius enjoys walking in the rain as much as they enjoy going out for a nightwalk by themselves -

#aquarius in love enjoys to show off their lover

in love will talk almost non stop about their lover - praising him/her all the way from head to toe ***

an might be caught up in many plans for the weekend but will bail out in the last second

no passion? no love from your

one moment can be all over you - in the next moment you might admire them from afar

an is a restless and most of the time sleepless being - usually - in love they will sleep like a bear in winter

my tweets here are like one big monologue with myself - not weird at all - I'm , we often talk to ourselves

#aquarius will seduce you first via the mind - getting you hooked on a whole new level

#aquarius will come up with the weirdest ideas at the weirdest moments - "how do you come up with this now?!" - well I'm aquarius #nuffsaid ***

do an #Aquarius wrong in the worst way, they'll play it cool - but inside they already have a plan on how to teach you a lesson

an #aquarius will always try to help you, even when you behave like a total douchebag - believing everyone can change for the better one day