#20 ladies only - stupid and stupid match great

ok before i can't stop shaking my head and rolling my damn eyes until they stay that way and i end up looking like a retard - let me quote robyn's lyrics from her song "indestructible"

And I never was smart with love

I let the bad ones in and the good ones go

But I'm gonna love you like I've never been hurt before

I'm gonna love you like I'm indestructible

Your love is ultra magnetic and

it's taking over

This is hardcore

Ooh and I'm gonna love you like

Like I've never been hurt before

ehm no girl, this isn't hardcore this is deep down stupidity which reaches the core of your pussy and unfortunetely not your brain - oh wait sorry, robyn was right. this is ultra hardcore - hardcore stupidity which deserves a hardcore slap in yo vajayjay to wake you up from this pink pony fairytale shit trip you're on.

couldn't resist to use this meme generator muhaha

i know your new crush or your new boyfriend is super exciting and you go nuts whenever you see him, almost throwing your panties after him and praising him like he's a fucking adonis with his magic stick. new person, new love, new chances - i get it - but how come so many women who are new in a relationship let down their boundaries and allow the relationship to fail just because they let themselves get blinded by hormones or their itchy vajayjay? suddenly starting to doubt that he's not all about that good boyfriend-material shit, you thought he was in the beginning. they don't change over night, it's because you let them!

why? because you don't use your gained experiences from the past relationships, because you roll in like a toddler on his trycycle for the first time although you know that when you don't set boundaries and be careful it's doomed to fail, bullshitting yourself that he'll stay this courteous, charming, helping and generous as he is now - just because it's all new, exciting, romantic, cheesy and you are way too busy being in love with him. you experienced hurt from your past relationships for a reason and the reason is def not to experience the same shit again because you make it too damn easy for him to bend your boundaries and put you into a role you aren't comfortable in. men get used to routines pretty fast and as long as you don't change things, it's your own fault. why blame him for bending your boundaries? yeh it's hard and yeh it might come over as unfair but men should be man enough to prove themselves without whining how unfair it is that you don't throw your trust after them. trust is earned - because trust is one of the most valuable things in a relationship, you can't just throw it after him girl. but let me say that i'm very proud of my fellow superwomen who also chose to allow themselves to expect, you are on the right way. eventhough it means you turn down many so called "chances" ppfffff if they were real chances they'd measure up to your requirements. so don't be sad and don't get frustrated - you reached a point many women didn't reach yet. it will get better and it will be worth it, i promise.

you might have been hurt before, you might have been lied to before, you might have been cheated on before - so why the fuck should you love him like you've never been hurt before? oh he's not like that bla bla no he's different bla bla - let him prove! that would be blind, naive and plain stupid. you know i'm all about this cute romantic stuff but at the same time i keep my boundaries and principles. i don't drown my boyfriend with love or trust and whipe his ass all the way up so he feels mothered, because no - i'm not his mother, i'm his girlfriend. he knows exactly what i expect from him because i let him know, he knows that my trust and love is earned and not given freely - that's why he holds up his efforts which are genuine.  if he wasn't in for the homerun he'd be swinging his bat half assed with half assed efforts and i'd be gone in no time.

there is no secret or so - it's simple. don't be afraid to be alone - because if you are then you get desperate, easy to bend, easy to use, easy to replace - and no, you don't want that. learn from mistakes and hold your head up, no need to feel ashamed as long as you are willing to accept them and learn from them. men aren't that bad, who do you want to blame - the sheep for opening the door instead of keeping it closed or the wolf for walking through the open door? keep your memories close at hand because that way you won't make the same mistakes twice.

#18 ladies only - forge the steal as long as it's hot

so you are new in this relationship - we have two individuals who are more or less alike - us women tend to walk on eggshells when handling our boyfriend in the beginning. why do we do this? are we afraid he might turn around and run away as soon as we "pressure" him in any way? do we shut up & "ignore" behavior on purpose so we can keep up the "honeymoon phase"? yeh you do, we all did this at some time.

i honestly don't think this is going to work because my mum once told me to forge the steal while it's hot - means as long as it's fresh/new/unknown you still have bigger chances to "form" your relationship according to both of your needs. but how should you do it? every man has his habits, wether it's gaming, being lazy, being messy or whatever - that's not the point - if you shut up nd act like it doesn't bother you that his bed room is a mess, his car is a dump or he's busy playing fifa 14 the whole time then it's your own fault. why sit there, fake a smile and wait for him to read your mind?

same goes with your interactions with others, i admit i'm a very territorial woman - so what? i'm confident enough to not actually worry but that doesn't mean that i'll ignore stuff that bothers me - especially here applies our new rule: forge that shit before it gets cold nd someone else forges it. it all depends on how you say it, you don't want to sound insecure and pathetic, i understand but not having the gut to speak up is just as insecure and pathetic. i told my bf straight from the beginning that whatever he does, he should second guess himself if he would still do the same if i would be standing next to him. so if the answer is no, then just don't do it. he told me in the same way what he expects from me as his girlfriend. that's legit, that's fair, that's how it should be. i like him being territorial himself - mmmhhhh ladies love to feel protected and valued.

don't act insecure
instead of: "am i the only one in your eyes? would you ever cheat on me? do you think she's prettier than me" (omg it makes me shrug to even think about speaking out those words lol)
you better say: "babe i just want you to know that i'm not into this sharing is caring stuff, ok? i'm not a woman to share her man. you wouldn't want to share me either. so if you want me to be your girl, i'll be the only one"

don't act like a psycho
instead of: "imma bust yo windows out ya car man if i ever catch you cheating on me and i'll beat up that other bitch, don't you ever fuck with me, i'm serious"
you better say: "i'll never cause you a scene, because you know what the best punishment for a man is who cheats? i'll simply walk out of your life and that's it, we are done and no i'm not in mum teresa mood, so no 2nd chances"

don't act like you are his mum
instead of: "your room is a mess, when u going to tidy up?! man when was the last time you did laundry?" or even worse "i'm so sick of your mess, i'm going to clean it now on my own"
you better say: "honey look, i folded some of your laundry and placed it next to your bed, could you please collect your laundry when you change - what about doing laundry once a week?" or "babe could you please take out the trash and don't forget the bottles in your room. could you please do that too?"



well, the trick is simple: don't be a mess yourself - why should he do it any better if you can't manage to be tidy and all that yourself? your kitchen is a mess, you have 1000kg laundry, you don't clean that much - it's not fair nor is it in any way legit to ask for things when you can't do it on your own. a confident woman is a woman with boundaries, boundaries she sets for herself and others who are in her life. a confident woman won't have as much problems with her man as an insecure woman.