#4 ladies only - avoid walking home alone when it's late

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well let's face it, us women are physically in disadvantage and if we heat up an argument too much it's very much possible that this will not end very well. usually i'm not afraid at all to walk home alone, when someone approached me i could easily wave a friendly "no sorry, gotta go now!" and yes, usually that's it and it won't cause any trouble. not this time. i walked home after bringing my bff to her place, was around 3am, would take me about 20 minutes usually, when two men crossed my way and yes, of course they tried to hook me up in a conversation. such a perfect prey they might have though, petite, younger and most of all alone - usually in such situations i pull out my phone and pretend that I'm txting or calling someone.they were whisteling and throwing some "super hot hook up lines" as "hey beautilful, where ya goin?" - so i threw back a rather cold "yeh yeh whatever - none of your business" while walking my way.

they came after me, trying to talk to me and i told them multiple times that i don't want to talk to them. i was scared to be honest because they didn't leave! so i kept walking but those f*cked up weirdos still walked beside me when suddenly one of them pulled my arm - i can tell you i was so so so so scared - telling me i should stop for a second "we just wanna talk to you for a min don't be so arrogant", so i pulled back and shout that he shouldn't touch me. seriously there was nobody on the street and i felt so alone and so scared. however one of the guys had to throw up on the sidewalk (there you go you f*cking bastard) and the second one was so irritated that i grabed the chance and ran away - thank god i wasn't far from home and i guess i never opened the door that quick since i live there. jesus... it started quickly and ended quickly but it made me reconsider what i could do to feel safer.

to be honest it could have gone bad and i think i was rather lucky this time - so my advice is:

• avoid getting into such situations! take a cab/last bus/etc instead of walking home alone, especially when it takes you more than 15/20 minutes and you walk through less crowded places!
• if you get in such situations, don't give them any oppertunity to feel offended - they're like little drama queens they will feel like their ego has been destroyed - best would be to just walk on without saying anything!!!!
• pull out your cell phone while walking, either call someone who will stay on the phone with you until you are home or pretend to be on the phone if you pass some dubious people
• avoid walking through empty streets, if you walk, chose streets where a lot of cars drive by
• don't give in and don't let them follow you to your place, especially when you live alone - don't do that!
• consider to buy some sort of pepperspray
• txt your bff when you made it home, that way she'll know everything's fine
• don't give any response - sure that could also cause a situation - but that way you give them less "surface" to go back on

however, it's a nice feeling when you have someone who loves you + you feel safer automatically - but if there's no man in your life who actually is there for you, then you do feel somehow more insecure in such situations. can't really explain it though but every woman wishes for a man to have her back. it might be in our nature to want a protective man on our side where we feel secure and are allowed to show "female weakness" - well of course he can't be around us 24/7 but you get my point. i wished I had that...