#17 inspired post - demanding is key

quote by kingkravate (twitter)

there are different reasons why a lot of us women never experienced an orgasm - i'm not talking about clitoral orgasms, those can be attained within 3 minutes whenever we do ourselves - longer if our partner tries. 

key word - tries

why? no matter how good he thinks he is, every woman has different needs and her body responds differently. a lot of men forget about one thing: mental and emotional stimulation, without them i guess it will be really hard to make her experience a vaginal orgasm. chances to do so are much higher when she feels emotionally attached to you, based on what you have as a foundation and how much you stimulate her mind in general and during sex. but i think the main reason why a lot of women never experienced a vaginal orgasm is because they don't speak up about their needs - they don't dare to demand sexual satisfaction like men do - ok you can moan more or less when he pushes the right buttons but still, why not say what gets you roaring like a lamborghini murciélago v12 engine? why not use this as your own advantage to heat up his desire for you even more?

experiencing an orgasm and chivalry aren't that much different from another! you can wait and expect a lot of a man, but in the end he'll do you way better when you actually speak up about your needs and wishes! you can wait for him to do the first step or wait for him to take you out on a real date, not those half ass suggestions like "what you wanna do" - "hm dunno, you decide it's whatever you want to do" that might sound nice and you think he's just polite, in reality he's just damn lazy.  so instead of waiting around i advise you to read my other post about standing up for yourself - #11 inspired post - those half ass suggestions and half ass efforts we get on a daily basis aren't enough. you have to decide that for yourself, that you won't be satisfied with 50% - 60% or 70% effort - no.

i decided for myself that i deserve an honest, caring and ambitious man - who plans his life with me, around me, together with me.and that's exactly what i demand and i declared my need for that kind of secureness - realize, demand and make progress.

making our needs nd wishes known to a man is directly connected to our fear of rejection - that's why many don't do it. but just think about it, you really want to be with someone who can't handle your needs, who gets scared off, who runs away or corners up like a little pussy? see it as a natural process of filtering - i wrote about the importance of filtering before - in order to sort out time wasters so you are available for the right one. how bad would it be to realize that you missed out the right one because your delusional ass was busy with a lazy time waster who mindfucked your heart? so if you confront a man with your needs, and he runs away - wave after him and shout "thank you" because that way you saved your precious time in the very beginning. now that i learned from it, i don't have any problems dumping the wrong ones within seconds and most important: without regret. how many times did i get weak in the past, how many times was i scared to demand something, how many times did i look past stupid behavior just because i was scared to lose something - nah nah nah lose what? a stupid lazy fucktard who doesn't give a fuck about you?  i ran after a damn time waster for too long - but i guess my stupid ass was lucky because mr right was still there - just like he was before...

try it out and you'll see how things work out better - for both your mental/emotional and sexual needs - don't sugarcoat it, just be straight forward. oh.... i promise you, he'll love to hear about your dirty fantasies - uncensored -  he'll do his best to satisfy you the next time, just how you demand it. same applies for him being a gentleman around you, tell him what you demand and let him fulfill his male role of the provider - providing security, love and pleasure to the lady he loves.