#5 ladies only - are we emotional whores?

what if us women tend to be emotional whores and men tend to be physical whores?

showing too much too soon is looked at and experienced as cheap, trashy, whore like. if a lady gives up on the temptation that looks straight at her, undressing her with it's eyes and lusts after the feel of her body - then she is actually giving in to the temptation that a man aroused in first place. most men are more physical orientated than women and their need for a tasty bite is bigger than their emotional need for exchange. vice versa, women are emotional more capable to raise a bond between them and their male opposite. 

we tend to let us self be driven by emotions more than lust because we realize that there is no such "perfect pure satisfaction" without an emotional bond which is build up by mental exchange, mental affection and mental matching. without exchange though, there is no air for a bond to grow - that's why most women lay bare their emotions very soon - in men's eyes too soon, as men don't build up a bond within the same short time as women do. for women it takes much more emotional involvement to let down their guard and fully give themselves to a man - essential for experiencing deeper physical pleasure on both sides. if a man can handle our fragile and precious emotional estate and respects our need to exchange this beautiful gift - then we surely give him more in return than he ever thought he could win. in fact we wouldn't be emotional whores if we weren't lead down that road by chivalrous men who know their game and place their bets right - giving us inspiration and space for it, without wanting to receive it actually. same as men wouldn't need to act like physical whores, because they don't need much of that emotional exchange as middle step before getting down physical, if women wouldn't arouse such temptations with promising and misleading appearances. 

in conclusion: act and dress like a valuable lady - and you won't be that much confronted with lusty temptation but instead esthetic respect and admiration which allows you to safely offer your emotional estate without acting like an emotional whore. watch how men won't act like physical whores towards you anymore - because you allow them in return to involve themselves more emotionally before you show how a real lady plays her game in bed - what a nice effect, isn't it? 

men and women should keep their "game" in bed, not on the street.

#9 inspired post

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exclusiveness is something which is behold to lovers, as monogamy is assumed - otherwise you have to decide for yourself how far your trust goes and how far you allow yourself to fall for trust. we live in a fast moving world, where interaction & fast satisfaction is given way too easy. you have to decide for yourself and listen very closely to your heart if it's worth the trust you are willing to give.

trust issues damage the bonding, but on the other hand who doesn't have trust issues or gets a little or more jealous sometimes? is it considered as being possessive if you don't want to share your most precious treasure? us women we invest ourselves so much in every kind of relationship, wether it's a friendship or a romance. if we let people come close to us and open up for them then we give some kind of trust on loan conditions subconsciously. we don't expect much in return, we just wish for giving back trust and show us that our emotional investment wasn't a fail. i'm quite unsure if men are more capable to handle such sharing stuff - but us women are def not capable of doing so. 

calmness and confidence isn't about just dealing with it - it's about how you deal with it! Boys share their "toys" and don't mind as long as they can use it too sometimes - real men don't share because they are able to see the difference of a "quick snack" & something very valuable and therefor mark their terrain. they won't be satisfied by snacks, be sure they don't want to share you or even lose you to another man either. Be happy and prove him that he doesn't want to lose you because of other snacks. Stay valuable for him, enjoy having eachother and just smiiiiiile - because how can you be valuable if you always pull a 7-days-raining face? make rainbows instead! nevertheless in my opinion exclusiveness shouldn't be taken for granted - and i highly value it, without it there is no way of having me on the tip of your little finger.

being exclusive is a choice - not a matter of putting eachother in chains - if you feel chained by the thought of exclusiveness then you are in the wrong place anyway! trusted exclusiveness is more worth than gifts, attention and many other things - it's a foundation.

#thx to all my readers

 here you can see a summary of my blogreaders from the past two months since i launched my blog. amazing to see where u guys come from :) big hugs to all of you and thanks for reading! 706 readers total by now, within two months - wooow! u really have to consider that i don't "push" my blog at all - if i posted something new then i just link it via facebook once and that's it.

so although i don't have hundreds of readers per day, i'm really happy when i see that at least one person was online to read something from me. have to say though that i do this for myself, i get unhappy and upset when i'm not able to write down my inner most thoughs - and of course i try to reach out to people who feel the same and seek for a little advice or inspiration. and omg, no, the amount of douchebags and bitches won't decrease by tomorrow - so we'll always "fight" with the same problems. but hey, head up and smile!

i'm a hopeless romantic and no, i don't stop believing that honesty, chivalry & a good heart is all a gentleman needs to pave the rocky road to a lady's heart.

but till we find mr. super nice, we'll mess around with mr. douchebag, mr. cheater, mr. lyer, mr. go fuck yourself, mr. i can have them all and mr. i'm not ready for a fucking relationship.

and i will surely bring some light in and help you gals to leave them where they belong - to the left, to the left, everything you own -> in a box to the left. cuz what do we say? we are too precious, wonderful and hella fly to waste our time with mr wrong!

xxxx