#place where magic happens

super quick - this is my little office corner where magic happens haha here i write all of my blogposts, do my book keeping etc & doll up. totally love to have a lot of perfumes, my two signature scents are "light blue" & "cherry in the air" - last one is LE, sucks, but i'll def buy a few more bottles before it's over.

usually i prefer sporty, fresh, clean scents - like "ralph" & "hilfiger" but i also dig charismatic scents like "body", "cherry in the air" or "light blue" - you either love them or hate them. in summer i also like to wear fruity, sweet ones like the ones from dkny or "cherry in the air" that's also very sweet but it has some kind of significant note to it - reminds me of something very nice and when i first smelled it, i knew i had to buy it.

it's all a matter of taste - i don't like 0815 scents, my signature scent needs to be outstanding and i like it if i can associate a certain smell to a certain person. i just hate it when every second chick smells the same lol that shitty alien perfume sucks cuz it's like a hookers scent - like they all share it! seriously?! guess i can count "the one" also as 0815 scent, however.

perfumes, left to right


escada "especially"
d&g "light blue"
escada "cherry in the air" LE
dkny "be delicious"
roberto cavalli "roberto cavalli"
gap "heaven"
clinique "happy"
d&g "the one"
h&m "white blossom"
dkny "gold rush"
burberry "body"
ralph lauren "ralph"
tommy hilfiger "hilfiger" LE

#6 ladies only - men's pandora's box

 

prometheus brought fire to humanity  -  as punishment for all mankind, zeus ordered hephaistos to build the first woman ever out of mud, pandora, - bringing all kind of plagues upon all of us. it's said that zeus gave pandora a box filled with total punishment and plagues for humanity, and no man on earth should ever open it. however, she did - typical woman - and punishment hit mankind.

that inspired me somehow, because a lot of men see a "relationship box" as some kind of "box of doomness" / "pandora's box" - they get afraid, corner up and back off like we could infect them with death bringing sickness. dear men, please think out of the box and don't underestimate a woman's need before even talking about being in a relationship with a man. yes, we do tend to be emotional whores - but it takes much more than a good looking man who's funny etc to finally make us settle!

because emotional exchange isn't the same as finally "signing the contract" - ok that doesn't sound nice - but you get my point. we might have a huge crush on you and yes we might be emotional and super attached to you, but that's about it. before we consider you to be our partner/boyfriend there are a whole lot of other criteria we are looking out for. it's not like we have a list hanging in our bathroom and we checkmark every feature of you, don't be paranoid. ok i admit that it's somehow confusing for men because they tend to categories our emotional attachment as a desperate need for tying them down and make them settle. but no, that's definitely not the case.

sure, it depends - not every woman has the same needs and some jump into a relationship right away - but i want to show up that it takes much much more for a man to really get a woman hooked for a relationship - ironic isn't it, men try their best to not be "boxed" and corner up their buts, but still they want their piece of cake. society, hollywood and all of that crap make men and women believe that there's nothing worse than being "boxed" - why settle down if you can have fwb?! it's so easy, we can fuck around without having any feelings and committment for one another. FALSE - one is going to develop feelings sooner or later and most of the time it's the lady. but by attempting to get closer to him, giving him his cake each and everytime, you are actually taking steps away from being in a relationship with him. that topic will be followed up later.

men like the chase, the thrill of not getting it the easy way - and they often misunderstand our early attachment or when we admit to have a crush on them - they automatically assume that they could have us with a fingersnap. yes, therefore we get boring for them and we are looked at as a piece of cake - nothing more. but dear men, i assure you that your assume is wrong, dead wrong. of course we invest a lot but we don't just throw that in every man's face - we are very picky - so yes, we consider you as "boyfriend material" BUT and here's the big big but:

before we give you the pleasure of experiencing unconditional and monogamous love,

• YOU need to EARN our trust
• just because we really really dig you, doesn't mean we fully trust you
• YOU need to be RELIABLE
• last minute plans, not writing back for hours/days, not picking up calls is not about being reliable
• YOU need to show that you are NOT one of those FLIRTY DOUCHBAGS - see my other post
• instantly giving away your attention to other girls is not nice, you think we don't get it? if you need to get so much attention from others then you just shot yourself off from our "potencial list" and it will take a lot of involvement from your side to gain back our precious trust
• YOU need to show us emotional STRENGTH
• no, emotional strength isn't cornering up, whining about feeling pressured and stuff. man up
•  YOU need to invest your TIME in communication
• no, if you sporadicly respond to us and don't give a shit to really spend time with us and get to know us - then no, you are not considered as good enough
• YOU need to keep your HANDS in place
• you might get to kiss us and get intimate with us to a specific point, but if you get impatient about finally getting to bed - then you just add another big ass minus point on our list
• YOU need to be emotional CAPABLE
• if you show us again and again that you are far away of being capable of a lady's emotional need of exchanging it, then don't even think that we put our trust in you. because we can smell that you'll leave us alone when we need you the most
• YOU need to convince us that you are not a filthy liar
• we will acknowledge a lot of your lies, still we won't say a thing - giving you the chance to do it right. if you start lying to us then you'll denie it anyway, no sense in calling you out on them

honestly, we could have a huge ass crush on you - we could even say "i love you" after months, but still we are not insane enough to jump into a relationship with you UNTIL you prove that you are worth it. being in a relationship means that we have trust and faith in you, knowing that we don't need to be worried about you hooking up other girls etc, knowing that you'll be by our side when we need you, knowing that you care enough about us to not lie in our face - we are emotional whores and we are stupid to still love you after all - but no, that's not enough for us to settle with you.

so please stop thinking of yourself as godlike ones, we aren't bunnies, ceps or anything you could EASILY have - it's a privilege  for YOU if we choose you to be our one and only partner. we could be as sweet as sugarcoat, making you feel adored - but trust me you haven't seen half of what awaits the lucky man who'll get chosen - so get ur finger out of your lazy emotional ass and don't count ur chickens before they're hatched. involving ourself into a relationship with you, giving you even more of us - that takes a real man, who stands his ground, proves emotional strength and perseverance to date us long enough. but a minus point for us women: because we are emotional whores, men get lazy and take all of our involvement for granted and therefor we aren't a challenge anymore. if they only knew that it takes so so so much more and just because we stick around for months - making ourself look stupid and desperate - doesn't mean that they could have us in an instant. while treating you with angel's patient we def "note" every single nasty behavior of yours, still hoping you'd change and stop being so stupid - misunderstood as waiting around for YOU to settle down for US - but trust me, it's the other way round. we are just too forgiving, giving and hopeful - one could say it's our own fault if men string us along, crushing our hearts without feeling bad at all.

i'm just thinking that there is a misunderstanding that misleads men to think that we are no challenge because we get involved emotionally quicker - that's def not the case, we just give you too many chances to prove us your strong emotional masculine traits. well, just means show us that u have balls nd don't just bark like a frightened dog. date us long enough, invest yourself, earn our trust, show us that you are mature enough to be monogamous without feeling caged, and THEN we consider you as good bf material. man up nd stop thinking you are a topshot hunter - it's a lady's choice to whom she gives the privilege and damn she knows exactly what to look for eventhough she might give you too many chances. until she kicks your but out of her eyesight because you just don't get it. man up and learn how to stop playing games - a real man just needs to be ambitious, both of life AND work. a gentleman can always turn the table if he didn't fully screw up - but there is the separation from the wheat and the chaff - most men don't have the courage to admit own stupid behavior and kindly ask for a last chance to prove all of their qualities, after he realized that emotional involvement doesn't mean that he could have us "boxed" in an instant.you have a long way to go mister, try to take me out for dinner with your granted attidtude once more - i fucking cancel it until you appreciate my precious time enough to keep asking me out.

there is nothing you have to be afraid of, i know that a man's heart is often times more fragile than a woman's heart - but still, a solar eclipse doesn't come long that often, don't be a dick by missing it because you think it will reappear tomorrow - it won't, unless you get ur ass up and travel after it.

edit 05/06/2013: no, even if you think you could live twice - we live our life right now - once! and that mofu solar eclipse won't come again in this life if you let it pass by - good luck

#5 ladies only - are we emotional whores?

what if us women tend to be emotional whores and men tend to be physical whores?

showing too much too soon is looked at and experienced as cheap, trashy, whore like. if a lady gives up on the temptation that looks straight at her, undressing her with it's eyes and lusts after the feel of her body - then she is actually giving in to the temptation that a man aroused in first place. most men are more physical orientated than women and their need for a tasty bite is bigger than their emotional need for exchange. vice versa, women are emotional more capable to raise a bond between them and their male opposite. 

we tend to let us self be driven by emotions more than lust because we realize that there is no such "perfect pure satisfaction" without an emotional bond which is build up by mental exchange, mental affection and mental matching. without exchange though, there is no air for a bond to grow - that's why most women lay bare their emotions very soon - in men's eyes too soon, as men don't build up a bond within the same short time as women do. for women it takes much more emotional involvement to let down their guard and fully give themselves to a man - essential for experiencing deeper physical pleasure on both sides. if a man can handle our fragile and precious emotional estate and respects our need to exchange this beautiful gift - then we surely give him more in return than he ever thought he could win. in fact we wouldn't be emotional whores if we weren't lead down that road by chivalrous men who know their game and place their bets right - giving us inspiration and space for it, without wanting to receive it actually. same as men wouldn't need to act like physical whores, because they don't need much of that emotional exchange as middle step before getting down physical, if women wouldn't arouse such temptations with promising and misleading appearances. 

in conclusion: act and dress like a valuable lady - and you won't be that much confronted with lusty temptation but instead esthetic respect and admiration which allows you to safely offer your emotional estate without acting like an emotional whore. watch how men won't act like physical whores towards you anymore - because you allow them in return to involve themselves more emotionally before you show how a real lady plays her game in bed - what a nice effect, isn't it? 

men and women should keep their "game" in bed, not on the street.

#9 inspired post

pic / quote by dapper_grandiose_fashion instagram

exclusiveness is something which is behold to lovers, as monogamy is assumed - otherwise you have to decide for yourself how far your trust goes and how far you allow yourself to fall for trust. we live in a fast moving world, where interaction & fast satisfaction is given way too easy. you have to decide for yourself and listen very closely to your heart if it's worth the trust you are willing to give.

trust issues damage the bonding, but on the other hand who doesn't have trust issues or gets a little or more jealous sometimes? is it considered as being possessive if you don't want to share your most precious treasure? us women we invest ourselves so much in every kind of relationship, wether it's a friendship or a romance. if we let people come close to us and open up for them then we give some kind of trust on loan conditions subconsciously. we don't expect much in return, we just wish for giving back trust and show us that our emotional investment wasn't a fail. i'm quite unsure if men are more capable to handle such sharing stuff - but us women are def not capable of doing so. 

calmness and confidence isn't about just dealing with it - it's about how you deal with it! Boys share their "toys" and don't mind as long as they can use it too sometimes - real men don't share because they are able to see the difference of a "quick snack" & something very valuable and therefor mark their terrain. they won't be satisfied by snacks, be sure they don't want to share you or even lose you to another man either. Be happy and prove him that he doesn't want to lose you because of other snacks. Stay valuable for him, enjoy having eachother and just smiiiiiile - because how can you be valuable if you always pull a 7-days-raining face? make rainbows instead! nevertheless in my opinion exclusiveness shouldn't be taken for granted - and i highly value it, without it there is no way of having me on the tip of your little finger.

being exclusive is a choice - not a matter of putting eachother in chains - if you feel chained by the thought of exclusiveness then you are in the wrong place anyway! trusted exclusiveness is more worth than gifts, attention and many other things - it's a foundation.

#thx to all my readers

 here you can see a summary of my blogreaders from the past two months since i launched my blog. amazing to see where u guys come from :) big hugs to all of you and thanks for reading! 706 readers total by now, within two months - wooow! u really have to consider that i don't "push" my blog at all - if i posted something new then i just link it via facebook once and that's it.

so although i don't have hundreds of readers per day, i'm really happy when i see that at least one person was online to read something from me. have to say though that i do this for myself, i get unhappy and upset when i'm not able to write down my inner most thoughs - and of course i try to reach out to people who feel the same and seek for a little advice or inspiration. and omg, no, the amount of douchebags and bitches won't decrease by tomorrow - so we'll always "fight" with the same problems. but hey, head up and smile!

i'm a hopeless romantic and no, i don't stop believing that honesty, chivalry & a good heart is all a gentleman needs to pave the rocky road to a lady's heart.

but till we find mr. super nice, we'll mess around with mr. douchebag, mr. cheater, mr. lyer, mr. go fuck yourself, mr. i can have them all and mr. i'm not ready for a fucking relationship.

and i will surely bring some light in and help you gals to leave them where they belong - to the left, to the left, everything you own -> in a box to the left. cuz what do we say? we are too precious, wonderful and hella fly to waste our time with mr wrong!

xxxx