#11 inspired post

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true as my heart, packed with a lot, sparing it out on the floor - vulnerability became rare, disrespected and used. oneway ticket to a woman's precious garden, or even a roundway ticket? where do us women want to stand in life? right, on our own heels with a pretty smile inspired by our life, falls, wins, family, friends and loved ones - also by people who crushed our heart into million pieces, why? because they showed us where we never ever want to stand again, down under with our feet in the mud of sticky never ending back and forth issues. no, we standup proudly, knowing that we'll never settle for less than we are truly worth of. we won't bend nor knee, we walk along our life's path happily and if one man out of douzen steps out of his comfort zone and wants us to be his queen, then he'll walk with us instead of leading us onto his comfort path.

we own this, we inspired men to get back to their instincts of going after what they want and get it with the right effort. there isn't a king and his lady, there will be a king and queen - partners not worshippers. a weak mind will dimm the light of your heart, know your worth and the directions you are going after and let that outshine all the other temptations men are after. because at the end of the day you are a queen with flaws and sparkling facets who will never feel and especially act like a side chick, doormat or bottom chick - be yourself and let that be amazing enough for him to do his male job, proudly courting his queen. there might be many courtjesters dancing around you, be patient, do your business and look at him as he courts you, you'll notice him in an instant - because a king will win with actions not words.

- sarah jessica

#5 ladies only - are we emotional whores?

what if us women tend to be emotional whores and men tend to be physical whores?

showing too much too soon is looked at and experienced as cheap, trashy, whore like. if a lady gives up on the temptation that looks straight at her, undressing her with it's eyes and lusts after the feel of her body - then she is actually giving in to the temptation that a man aroused in first place. most men are more physical orientated than women and their need for a tasty bite is bigger than their emotional need for exchange. vice versa, women are emotional more capable to raise a bond between them and their male opposite. 

we tend to let us self be driven by emotions more than lust because we realize that there is no such "perfect pure satisfaction" without an emotional bond which is build up by mental exchange, mental affection and mental matching. without exchange though, there is no air for a bond to grow - that's why most women lay bare their emotions very soon - in men's eyes too soon, as men don't build up a bond within the same short time as women do. for women it takes much more emotional involvement to let down their guard and fully give themselves to a man - essential for experiencing deeper physical pleasure on both sides. if a man can handle our fragile and precious emotional estate and respects our need to exchange this beautiful gift - then we surely give him more in return than he ever thought he could win. in fact we wouldn't be emotional whores if we weren't lead down that road by chivalrous men who know their game and place their bets right - giving us inspiration and space for it, without wanting to receive it actually. same as men wouldn't need to act like physical whores, because they don't need much of that emotional exchange as middle step before getting down physical, if women wouldn't arouse such temptations with promising and misleading appearances. 

in conclusion: act and dress like a valuable lady - and you won't be that much confronted with lusty temptation but instead esthetic respect and admiration which allows you to safely offer your emotional estate without acting like an emotional whore. watch how men won't act like physical whores towards you anymore - because you allow them in return to involve themselves more emotionally before you show how a real lady plays her game in bed - what a nice effect, isn't it? 

men and women should keep their "game" in bed, not on the street.